1 jiemei only, not good enough?
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mrs_woofie
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I feel that the gate crashing thing is to make the wedding more lively, more fun. I don't think the number of jiemeis really matter. If you are worried, maybe rope in another 2 or 3 more female friends, cousins, etc.,
julietrulez
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yeah, i think can ask your cousins in too... they will be glad to join in the fun and your FH cannot "joke" with your cousins and have to listen to wat cousins say because afterall they have to see each other (during festivals i mean) for the rest of their lifes... so will so called "give face".. and then bo bians kanna sabo..
hi ladies, how advance do u check with frens/cousins whether they can be ur jiemeis? according to mum, there are some zodiac signs who cant be my jiemeis, and i happen to have quite a number of frens who are on this list. so i thot better check with my frens/cousins earlier, just in case. my wedding is in jan 08. now too early to ask??
janet,
Actually its all about superstitious, if you worry too much into the small matters, you will have a lot of stress and headache during the actual day.
I just did what I felt, of cos observed about 2-3 rules about timing and all, other than that, everything went on smoothly, as I didn't have to stress myself about all the nitty gritty matters.
Trust me, you will want to keep it as little superstitious as possible otherwise u will be extremely stress not only on the wedding event of the day but also about parents' supertitiousness.
I am glad both my parents and in laws were more modern people.
Actually its all about superstitious, if you worry too much into the small matters, you will have a lot of stress and headache during the actual day.
I just did what I felt, of cos observed about 2-3 rules about timing and all, other than that, everything went on smoothly, as I didn't have to stress myself about all the nitty gritty matters.
Trust me, you will want to keep it as little superstitious as possible otherwise u will be extremely stress not only on the wedding event of the day but also about parents' supertitiousness.
I am glad both my parents and in laws were more modern people.
jan4january
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if got not enough brothers n sister at the door crashing, can ask whoever relatives at the house to do, since this door crashing is jz to make some noise n make the day more fun.
ya lor .. but i duno her relatives leh .. acTually i am a little duno what to do that day as well .. the guy is not that acceptable to "weird" drinks then only him what is there to sabo? haa ... i think if i ask him to shout loud I LOVE U to his wife to be he would hate me until 2008 
Maybe i can write a mushy letter and ask him to write out ? AI DE XUAN YAN or ask him to sing a love song ..
i really dun wish to let my friend of a decade + to have a quiet wedding leh haa ..
Maybe i can write a mushy letter and ask him to write out ? AI DE XUAN YAN or ask him to sing a love song .. i really dun wish to let my friend of a decade + to have a quiet wedding leh haa ..
Some traditional pple dun like married people to join in, esp married women incase they are pregnant, or newly married women (cos they believe will "cong xi").
As for same number, I would prefer to have same number.. because it looks nice and so that everything's equal.. cos marriage is an equal union right?!
As for same number, I would prefer to have same number.. because it looks nice and so that everything's equal.. cos marriage is an equal union right?!
Err... actually my JMs and the brothers super no balanced. The brothers plus my HB was 8 ppl, but I only have 4 JMs.
I stay in HDB flat, not along the corridor, so I didn't see a point to have so many JMs - no one can see them thr the gate if too many. But think my HB was quite scared of the 'power' of my JMs, so he had to get reinforcement.
I stay in HDB flat, not along the corridor, so I didn't see a point to have so many JMs - no one can see them thr the gate if too many. But think my HB was quite scared of the 'power' of my JMs, so he had to get reinforcement.
kitty_princess
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actually is it a must to have the gate crashing stuff?
vysweetapple
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It is not a must. My sis & aunty did not practise that. But hubby want, as more fun. Thus I will be hving 4 jie mei & 4 bros
eowyn_1711
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Sigh... i have 3 jie meis but they are not on good terms with each other now. They can't even settle the dress code issue amiably and everyone is feeling sian. Sigh.. and i thought that jie meis are supposed to help u, not give u more trouble.
winniefang83
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hi w3n, i think its not a must to have jie mei, but its still good to have some, cause you may need their help on your big day
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so far, i been a jiemei more then 6times but we didn't negotiate for any amount before hand. Of course, for fun.. we will asked for 9999... for the effect to be taken down on video.. of course in the end.. is usually 188/288 or so...
end up... its only maybe 20 or 30 per jiemei.. but its ok... we even paid for our own dress, the stuffs to tekan the grooms & brothers...
TO us, its a happy occasion and the amount is just a number to us... We are not trying to sell our friends off to the guy's side.. the $$$... usually we will arranged to be shared after the tea session while we are having our lunch. If closer friends, usually we will dated everyone out including the couple for a good meal after that.
Its just my point of view.. prehaps some do make arrangement and stuffs..
end up... its only maybe 20 or 30 per jiemei.. but its ok... we even paid for our own dress, the stuffs to tekan the grooms & brothers...
TO us, its a happy occasion and the amount is just a number to us... We are not trying to sell our friends off to the guy's side.. the $$$... usually we will arranged to be shared after the tea session while we are having our lunch. If closer friends, usually we will dated everyone out including the couple for a good meal after that.
Its just my point of view.. prehaps some do make arrangement and stuffs..
candycandy001
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I dont have gatecrashing, so no JM/XD also. Only have my 1 & only younger sister helps along...
Hi,
I personally feel that gate-crash ang pao is something more for 'yi si' will do. Do not go beyond what the groom can afford.
Let's say if the groom only budget or can only allocate $500 for this gate-crash, then the bride can roughly tell the sisters. Afterall, the sisters should be there to join and witness the happy moment but not EARNING extra income (by being sisters) and make everything so hard for others.
Yes, normally sisters will split the ang pao. Well, I think there's no fixed rules when the money should be given out. But a little tips to share, if you foreseen your htb will drink a lot during the dinner later, it's better to give away ang pao before dinner. Else, you might be busy with ur htb who is drunk and forgot abt the ang pao later.
Just some humble thought...
I personally feel that gate-crash ang pao is something more for 'yi si' will do. Do not go beyond what the groom can afford.
Let's say if the groom only budget or can only allocate $500 for this gate-crash, then the bride can roughly tell the sisters. Afterall, the sisters should be there to join and witness the happy moment but not EARNING extra income (by being sisters) and make everything so hard for others.
Yes, normally sisters will split the ang pao. Well, I think there's no fixed rules when the money should be given out. But a little tips to share, if you foreseen your htb will drink a lot during the dinner later, it's better to give away ang pao before dinner. Else, you might be busy with ur htb who is drunk and forgot abt the ang pao later.
Just some humble thought...
One jiemei is definitely not enough.. it would be better if it's an even number.
My first time as a jiemei was for one of my friends. Just me and another girl. My friend want us to dress in a mandrain orange tube dress.
Well,true enough, me and the other girl look so much like two mandrain orange standing beside them.. very auspicious=D
My first time as a jiemei was for one of my friends. Just me and another girl. My friend want us to dress in a mandrain orange tube dress.
Well,true enough, me and the other girl look so much like two mandrain orange standing beside them.. very auspicious=D
