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Hi all, Thanks for the advices. I know i shouldn't have such mistrust and insecurities. The constant checking and doubting is taking a toll on me too. I guess it's just so hard to mend a broken relationship and takes time and a lot more to trust and love again. The positive part is I've...

Dear all, Hope to get some perspectives and hear your views regarding trust issues in a marriage, especially after forgiving a spouse of an affair. My husband is open to handing me his phone, letting me use his applications and sometimes ask me to read and reply messages for him. He no...

Hi, it's a normal reaction not to let those homewreckers have it easy- the " fruits" you are talking about.. Perhaps, in the initial stage of anger and resentment, you may still want to hang on to the marriage because you don't want your husband and that woman to get together so easily. I...

Hi cschris, Yes! Those are the mixed feelings i was talking about. Seems like we 'won', the errand spouse made the choice to come clean and chose family over their affair , we chose to forgive and by right should move on. The men seem to have it easy and things just got back to normal, at...

Hi cschris and all, Sorry, i didnt realised there were new notifications and didnt check the forum in weeks. Thanks all for reading and replying to my post. It gave me the comfort of having an outlet and to hear different views. Well, i can totally understand where u are coming from...

Hi RnS, Just hope to offer some encouragement here.. I can sense your love for your wife and family and it must be quite a emotional trauma to be hit by such realisation after 10 years of marriage. Not sure if it will work for you, letting your wife know about how u really feel in words and...

Thanks for responding. Yes, i agree with both of you. Hard to forget, hard to let go of the hurt. I guessed i'm that kind that dwell on things and am a highly emotional person. Hope time and positive thinking help in the long run. Grateful for my group of friends who share the same moral...

I'm 35 and he's 38. Mid life. Haha..

Hi all, Browsing through the forum and just wondering if there is anyone out there struggling like me with similar situations. To summarise, I discovered last year that my hubby of 9 years had an affair with a common friend and he cheated on me both physically and emotionally. Though i...

Hi, I have not posted for a while. Just hope to leave my 2 cents worth. Being a 'recovering' wife of an affair, this road of bearing with a 3rd party in a relationship is indeed not easy. Despite it may seems the man is back by your side, told you frankly instead of just finding excuses to...

Hi cyndyblue, I agree with joannewoo; its so brave of you to still reconcile with him. The issues of prostitutes and casual sex are so touchy. Admire your courage to give him a chance, but do protect yourself, if you know what i mean. You will never know if he will do it again and expose you...

1. Easily flare up 2. Use imtimidation to get his way 3. NO such thing as compromise in his dictionary 4. 'mr nice guy' to all girls and go all the way out to 'help' others at the expense of his gf..

Think of how you were when you all just started your relationship.. That first love.. there must be something in you that your wife finds attractive in the first place. You attracted her enough for her to say 'i do' on the altar.. Im sure you still have it.. Find it.let it build up your...

Ah? Called and scolded u? U meant he was married but still get together with u? Was he a cheater to start with?

Hi, I think perhaps like you said.. They are so 'empty' emotionally that any man will do? As long as can sayang them and a willing party..or maybe thatvwoman who broke your family only want to get her citizenship? And marry a local is the easiest way? Since you know her, why not confront and...

Sometimes i wish my hubby will make more effort and be more expressive, like some guys here in the forum.. If only he makes a little more effort to reassure me n to be more sensitive to the heart he had broken, i will be a happier person.. But this is wrong right? Everyone is different n we...

Ya..i was brutally told in my face that our rs have cracks.. N he n bitch are just 2 lonely people comforting each other..i saw his messages to her when we are in cold war; he told her he needs her..more than before ..n ask her if she will accompany him..to the next hotel..i think.. She has...

This is so terrible! How could he?? Still ask u to sleep first? This is something i cannot understand.. When such things happen, how to they expect us to sleep?? I totally can feel u!! What no more sparks! My husband said he felt empty emotionally! Then why can change so fast?? Feeling very...

Felt i want to say a few words after reading this.. But from a woman's perspective. At the point where a relationship becomes brittle, fear of doing or saying something wrong is really so real.. Especially when we are given mixed signals.. Where either left or right seem to be the way.. Suddenly...

Thanks for sharing your story. Indeed, once broken, its difficult to trust again.. Sometimes, i felt useless. Always thought i am an independent woman and do not need to depend on a man.. My dad was an absent father and that had sort of impacted me since childhood not to depend on a man. Thus, i...