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Sm, nice to hear from u again. I fully agree that you cant change other people but you can change yourself and it's often easier to change yourself... Ya, I'll just focus on my job for now and let divorce come naturally. A for the children, with a job, I can't be breathing down their neck...

OMG, you really sound so like my husband! To meet one of his species here in this forum, I just don't know to laugh or to cry, you know. Ok, I'll just try to ignore you. FYI, I am returning to work. Albee, it's nothing. He just wanted to spite me, that's why when my children complained...

Scope Guy, I thank you for your reply. Your post is too interesting for me to ignore. Allow me to comment without offence. Your description of me is very interesting. I may be 49, but everybody I came into contact with guess I'm only in my mid 30's at most. I feel very honoured that a 39...

Hi Powder, Nice of you to respond again and once again I like your insight. When I was working briefly, everytime I returned home, the spelling's not learned, the school hw not done. Teachers called to complain. Finally from avg marks of 70, grades dropped to 50s, 60. My elder boy from best...

Hi, been absent from this forum for 3 years. Sort of went into my shell, haiz. Here's an update on my situation for those interested. I took on 1 part-time job, but eventually gave up as my 2 sons results dive and their interest in study wanes. I just can't let go of them. My husband became...

Anyone who read my earlier thread will be familiar with my story. The story continues.... I took on 1 part-time job, but eventually gave up as my 2 sons results dive and their interest in study wanes. My husband became more and more vuglar and hit me once. He also hit my boys and use...

AFTER both of you has talked, AFTER you've tried all possible ways to salvage the relationship and she's still the wife from hell, then ask her to choose to change or to divorce. Explain to her if life goes on this way, all 4 of you would suffer. If she still loves you and children, I'm sure...

John, I hardly post, but I feel compel to after reading your posts. I'll like to give you something to think about. When I was single, I was like honey attracting bees. I've bosses, colleagues falling all over for me until I've to keep changing jobs to escape unwanted attention. Life was...

Hi Dorothy, Thanks so much for your concern. When a man stopped loving his wife, he'll think of ways and means to justify his actions. My husband recently told my children that he gave me so much monthly allowance, yet they are so skinny. He complained no fish. He said he's going to email me...

No. I'll be very honest. I'm not ready to find the lost me. I'm very very afraid of making the 1st step into the unknown after so many years, and what the consequences would mean to my 2 boys who're still so innocent. I also believe there are many odds against me out there with my age and...

powder, I read some of your posts and I've been waiting for you to commment. You're obsolutely right. Along the way, I've lost myself. I need to find the lost me inorder to get back my self-esteem and confidence. I know I can no longer be able to get them at home now. Without it, how can I...

What's done is done so don't think about it. If he's a strong man, it doesn't matter when, where or how you break the news. I can understand why you choose to break the news in this way. You probably dare not break it to his face or worried he'll come charging at you straitaway. When I was...

Dear, hang on, you're half way there already. Don't give up to pressure and ruin your future. It's they cry now or you cry later! Remember, be strong against the current, do not let it sweep you away. If you're in any religion, you need your God's strength. Pray! When I was separated...

Hi, I need some views, weigh the pros and cons, before I make decision to D or not. My husband should be against D as my boys are only 9 and 11. One of them will be sitting for PSLE next year. However, I cannot accept an arrangement where I'm put in a great disadvantage. Therefore...

Green, Don't get me wrong. I've nothing against children from broken families or those with poorer academic scores. My house is just as broken and my children are not top scorers. I mentioned because some of my daughter's friends are very bright students actually. One of them has a...

Thanks for all the contributions again. I thought I tried explaining that I'm guiding her not 'forcing' or 'controlling her'. Whatever I did I always ended up telling her, "think about what I've said and you decide, ok." I would deem Tomasulu's comments more acceptable. You've made a very...

Joanne, You've hurt B, so you must be prepared to let him lash out at you. It may turn ugly depending on what can of man he is. You may not get sympathy from relatives and friends, after all you're the one who did the dumping. Be strong, all this will blow over eventually. Better now than...

Karen, Thanks so much for the link and your encouragement. I'll be meeting the counsellor end of the week. I'll contact you if I don't feel comfortable with the counsellor. I do not have friends or relatives whom I can confide in, posting in forum is a way to get to know myself thru other's...

I was young and very sought after. Unfortunatley I fell in love with A who does not return my love. I committed suicide but failed. He came to see me in the hospital and told me attachment is suffering, so he does not wish to get attach. My husband and I were colleagues, he saw my...

Why use the word 'control', why not 'help'? I've asked her, but she does not know what she wants to be, she only knows she likes Maths. She did not want to explore the Poly websites and go through the courses available because she kept thinking of getting into JC. There were many open...