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Hi VerySadMan, ...can understand that it will be a very difficult path for you to move on and also let go. 13 years is very long.... But if your wife insisted on divorce and there's no more turning back, probably you would need to look forward. Possible to try to live your life for...

Hi Heartpain, Hope you don't feel "stuck" at this juncture. Hope your posting is still valid. Then just move on your life. I guess your hubby has wanted to give it a try too but couldn't work out. Would be good if you could continue your journey from where you have stopped. Hope the best...

I guess shouldn't say to feel positive about your spouse but to see things in a positive way. Keeping positive about saving your marriage is a positive thinking already....

Hi doLL, I didn't assume what he has or has not done...I told him it's my personal opinion since he mentioned he is staying on in the family but don't feel happy(?) and now relationship worsen b'cos wife confronted that gal. His mindset must be right first for the decision he made. I'm...

There are definitely successful cases but not all would turn out to be good. I would still hope he think of his family first for whatever decision he makes. Maybe his family would be better with him breaking out of it or maybe would be worst....nobody knows...so hope that he still puts his...

Hi Lost_babe, If he is the boss of his company, probably really very busy? Possible to ask him to fork out at least a weekend once a mth if he is really very busy? Can't conclude if he is really busy or finding excuse from the text.....

Hi Lost_babe, Your situation sounds so familiar...my husband also work like that. I have to wake up at 6 everyday to go to work on my own so I also have problems staying awake to wait for him to finish his work, which sometimes ends past midnite. He works on holidays too. I started getting...

He is on the fence...I would prefer he consider the impact it would have for the decision he made. What's done cannot be undone but if there is a hope..why not give it a try? I recently lost a friend to cancer...she tried her very best to go all sorts of treatment and whatever operations that...

Hi Lost_Babe, It will never be the same and of course, the new path would be difficult. He could really be busy with his work, maybe let him have some time to work and then asked him to watch TV together later? There are many things you can do together, like going out for late nite...

Hi Leeyuanping, Frankly speaking, I hated husbands like you but that is my feeling, so don't take offence....that aside... You seems to recognise your wife as a mother to your kids but not as a wife to you...that's not good and probably selfish? Actually what is on your mind, really, what...

Hi Pingping, thanks....glad you are willing to give it a try. I too, had a tough time adjusting. But I always have to think about the impact for every decisions I make and I have a choice. Be happy or miserable. All the best

Hi Ethel, Sorry, I just set-up my PM...should be able to pm me liao...

Thanks doLL, Starting afresh is in my agenda but saying is easier than implementing but no doubt I am doing it. Cos' I still treasure whatever we have build in the past 10 years and most importantly, give my kids a healthy environment to grow up. Just needs time and I am confident I can do...

Hi Ethel, What I sense is hurt and pain while you are writing all these. I've been thru' the same...putting all my available free time for my kids and family in exchange for a word "separation" from my husband. But we need to consider a lot of factors especially when a child is involved...

Hi Leeyuanping, hope you can try to rekindle the feelings you had when you married your wife...maybe a good start is to find her good points and not dwell with the imperfections. When you are able to acknowledge her good points, I guess you would have an easier time and better life to live

Hi Ethel, Maybe it's good for you to cool down first before making a firm and probably, "no-return" decision. Maybe should consider whether your baby would be better off with you or your husband. I think this is the main factor to consider. Also, by letting them take care of your gal...

Yes, a lasting marriage may not include love but that is the couple's decision. Having a 3rd party to trigger it, make the entire situation complex. They are called a 3rd party because the marriage and family does not include them at all (in fact no room for them). Whether the couplet ries...

maybe depends on what kind of troubled marriage we are talking about. The marriage here did involve a 3rd party, whether its a trigger or not. Getting involved with a married man is a no-no. Without the 3rd party, maybe there's still a chance that the couple would give their marriage a try?

Totally agree. A 3rd party is usually the trigger. Without them, most marriage would last (maybe). But with them, marriage would be easily broken down

No lah...not assuming. To me, to get involved with a married person is already wrong in the first place....Once committed, stays committed. Love should be able to re-kindle as there must be a reason why the couple fell in love in the first place and even start a family. But of course got...