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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    Now I am craving for potatoes for dinner...hmm...
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    Lolz become a thread to discuss frying potatoes...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Yea, thanks for all the encouragement here...hope I can find the courage within myself to stand up to them...my mother is quite a cunning person so won't be easy to get past her. All along she gives me the feeling that she cares for me just so that I can provide for her during her old days; she...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Yup, I agree it is up to me...sigh, why must I be so soft-hearted...I think since young I have always been afraid to stand up to them. Everytime I stood up to them I would get beaten up badly...so I have learnt over the years to just keep my mouth shut and go along with what they want...
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    @NewLife How long does she need to depend on the PI to assure her that her husband is up to nothing? What if they get married, husband resumed his clubbing routine, then TS will need to get PI again to spy on him?
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    I think they are counting on the facts that I will not report them to the authority as they are my parents...and they think that being parents, they have the rights to control me etc. And they know I am afraid of them causing trouble esp at my workplace because I don't like to lose face so they...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Thanks for all the help...I guess now I can only wait and see since my house is not ready yet. But once they start to make unreasonable demands I will have to learn to stand firm...will be a difficult lesson for me too...
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    "Sigh.. seriously.. come to think about it.. if i really need to resort engaging a PI against him... whats the point to continuing the relationship then? But again... arggg i dunno" This sentence says it all. A marriage cannot work if there is no trust. And if your husband to be gives you...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Hmm ok will try...not sure if I can do without the permission of my boss...means have to let them know first. I prefer not to have too many ppl know about tis problem of mine in my office...bad experience from previous time I guess..
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Joycelyn> Good idea but the security guards in my workplace in on rotation so I won't know who will be on duty when my parents decide to pop in...and the security guards seem to change everyday...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    AB> If both of them are really ill (as in certified by doctor), I have no choice but to take care of them since I am the only child. Maybe I won't bring them to live with me but will hire someone to take care of them back home. But definitely my expenses will go up. Yes, my workplace has...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Hmm so if they feign illness I will bring doctor to my house to examine them? Then if the doctor says they are not ill, I will just refuse to let them stay with me. Then confirm they will threaten to come to my workplace to create a big fuss...so I should just let them do it? Sigh definitely...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    They even went to a lawyer to draw a letter in which it was stated I must pay them a specific amount every month, if not they will take legal action towards me. Which parents would do this? So if follow the second step listed by HBH and don't give them the specific amount every month...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Hei Bee Hiam> Yea, sometimes I do feel that they are taking me for granted. Maybe I am partly at fault as well. I can be quite soft-hearted and will just give in to avoid trouble. Plus I feel bad to come over here to work and leave them behind to fend for themselves, especially since I am...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    joycelyn> Both of them can be violent... I am not rebellious at all...cos I was afraid for my life... My mother is in her fifties while my father just turn 60.
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    I also think he is not ready to settle down...imagine when you are married to him already then he will be out almost every night without telling you and you will be left at home wondering what he is doing and who is he with... I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with him, explain...
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    What makes the two of you decide to get married?
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    When I was young, it is hard to stand up to them as they can resort to quite drastic measures...like beating me up or threatening to slash me with knife etc...it might sound quite kua zhang but it really happened...sometimes I couldn't believe they are my parents...that's why until now I don't...
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    Unreasonable, Violent Parents

    Jocelyn> Yea, you are right. They always have this mindset that it is not expensive to live in Singapore...so when I tried to explain to them the heavy expenses I incur every month, they will say that I anyhow spend that's why not enough money. They claimed that I only need 300 every month for...
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    Going R.O.M soon.. but...

    If you can't trust the guy, why did you agree to ROM with him in the first place? Is it possible for you to postpone the ROM to a later date? That will give you more time to know him better and see whether you can trust him. Without trust, the marriage won't last for a long time...so...

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