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    Unreasonable behaviour from wife

    I agree with Miloice's theory because I have been in your wife's position minus the pregnancy. My husband was overseas for 3 years for his study. I was in SG all these while. I am really envious when I see others with their partners and I have to manage everything myself. I would visit his...
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    Maintaining a healthy marriage, how to?

    Hi Cremechoc, Reading your situation is like deja vu again. Just wish to let you know that you are not alone in such situation. There are a couple of us with very similar cases. PM me if you need a listening ear.
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    Devastated....Failed Marriage

    Hi Danielle367, did not get your PM. Why not just email me at [email protected]?
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    Devastated....Failed Marriage

    I know sooner or later I will be able to accept "normal company" but is just not now. Not when the wound is raw. Just want someone that I can relate to. Be it people that have been through or going through currently. For "normal company", is it always have to be on husband and kids? Can't the...
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    Devastated....Failed Marriage

    Hi momoftwo, what do you mean by "eternal misery"?
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    Devastated....Failed Marriage

    Hi Danielle, I am in a very similar situation as yourself. I am at a cross road of to salvage or to exit. Nearly 40 years old now, have been with him for almost 18 years and nothing comes of it. But he is the one that always ask for separation and this is the 3rd time. Most probably I will...
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    Devastated....Failed Marriage

    Hi pasir_ris_beach, sorry to hear what you are going through. Your hb still in contact with her? Any actions from him to show that he is truely remosed? Maybe ask yourself what is it that you want. No anyone else but yourself and how you can achieve that. If patch up, please ensure that this...
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    Am I wrong?

    Hi Maggies, like what the rest mentioned, it is really managing expectations. But to me, it is managing YOUR OWN expectations. For my case, I have come to terms that I am not his top priority and I accept it as this is him. I cannot expect him to change because of me rather he wants to...
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    Am I wrong?

    Hi Maggies, maybe let me let me tell you about my story... I have been together with my partner for a very long time, since school days. All along he is a very sweet and caring person. However he does have a tendency to be a workaholic and spends a lot of time at work. But he has no fail to...
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    How to move on? Cannot get over the hurt and anger

    Milo, I totally agree with you that acceptance of reality is the first step to healing.
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    How to move on? Cannot get over the hurt and anger

    Yi Ling, support from someone is very important regardless is it family, friends, counsellors. Maybe you have been bottoming up your emotions. Try to release them. Talk to someone. Start making friends. Things will get better when you start working. Have some time for yourself. Pick up some...
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    How to move on? Cannot get over the hurt and anger

    For depression, medical help is useful. I have visited pyscologist and psychiatrist but I am not insane. I just needed someone to listen and understand. It is sometimes helpful to speak to someone that does not pass any judgement. Counsellors are often good to provide a listening ear. It is...
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    How to move on? Cannot get over the hurt and anger

    Hi Yi Ling, I have been to psychologist and psychiatrist before. I pour out all my anger and grievances to the pyschologist. It is like a step towards recovery as no one can understand how I felt. I no longer see them now. But occassionally I still felt that I am in depression but I sort of...
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    His intention?

    Yah. Some times I always wonder why 2 person who had been in love can be so cruel during divorce. By being upset with him, the only person that will feel the negative impact is only yourself. Really no point. Of course you have all the rights to feel upset. Let yourself be upset, angry...
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    His intention?

    Piggy, ignore him. He is trying to show that he is a loving father. As long as you stay strong, I am sure the custody will be yours. Slowly heal yourself and love yourself. If you do not love yourself, nobody will. Take good care of yourself so that you can care better for your gal. Talk...
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    His intention?

    Fate is a funny thing. You will never know what is instore for you. Just go with the flow for the time being. Dont rush into things. I am sure you do have phobia after going through all these trauma. No point finding a partner for the sake of finding one. Look at all the stories in Wan Bao...
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    His intention?

    I think as a mum, your top priority will always be your gal. Focus on settle your divorce first and heal yourself. No point thinking of another relationship at this moment. If you rush into things, might jump from the pot into the fire. I believe all people can survive by themselves. 30 years...
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    His intention?

    Amazingpiggy, let nature takes its course at the moment. Whatever will happen will happen. Now concentrate on getting the divorce done and gaining the custody of your gal. I agree that your gal should be your top priority. Getting a mate is something good to have but not the top priority...
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    Kids to continue contact with ex after divorce?

    Hi poopy, any reasons why do you want to restrict his access? One of my friends (guy) visit his kids everyday. He will send them to school and have dinner at his ex's place every night before he go home. He will also spend his weekends with them (plus his ex). He told me that he can forgo...
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    His intention?

    Sorry to hear about the latest development. How about consulting a good lawyer on your case? As you are working and you have your mom to help take care of your gal, I believe most probably you will have the custody. Stay strong.

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