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    Love, Chance and Choice

    when i chose him as the right choice for me, i thought i am the right choice for him as well... Because i am willing to accept/admire who he is, what he is... And i commit myself and strive to become the right choice for him... Prob is... 1. i assume i'm the right choice for him 2. he...
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    Will you believe him again?

    thomas: yes i do agree this is public forum and everyone have rights to comment. But have u ever consider Hope's emotion right now? It's driving her crazy. And yes, u do have the right to be posting logical and very truthful and kind advices which actually I agree with u TOTALLY but to Hope, all...
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    Will you believe him again?

    hi all... i guess the best for her is to lend her a listening ear, give her kind advises and response instead of rubbing salt into wound? Every single infidelity story is unique... Hope is stress out, angry, upset, disappointed etc with her hb... I think you all have given her very good...
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    Will you believe him again?

    powder: perhaps i made it sound like i'm "breaking" him n TOW up? no i didn't keep him in the cage, he willingly wants to be keep in the cage. He proposed that idea of tracking him via iPhone. My first step when i expose his misdeed was moved out of his place and told him to leave me forever...
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    Will you believe him again?

    hope... maybe you can do like what i did... impromptu day: ME: call her up and tell her the truth since u said that u don't love her and was lying to her... HIM: ok ME took his hp and dial her number since he has declared that he don't keep her number anymore... TOW answered the phone...
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    Broken marriages - who has a greater responsibility?

    Lynn... be strong and ignore him and leave him... this guy has proven to have no credibility... u r a victim too! U r a human with emotions and its understandable that u need some time to digest the truth and break away but again half a yr is rather long. for my case it's different... the...
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    Anyone managed to salvage marriage?

    hi hope, i'm in same situation on extra marital affairs but what is different is my husband has been asking me to go back for 2.5 months already, i have not give in yet and still dragging... btw i'm 29 yo with a 4.5 mths bb... whatever decision i make is a turning pt in my life hence i don't...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    hi May, I guess i feel that it is just not right to fall in love and stray when i have a bf/husband... It's alright to like ppl but not fall in love with other ppl... i do admit i like a number of ppl for the past seven years but i don't grow and no intention to grow the feelings further. i...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    May, i guess i feel heartbroken to be apart from him. I believe i love him enough to forgive him for once and i love myself alot too that i dont want to have any heart break again... Well life is just full of risk. Being w him will definitely be a high risk and if i date other people, its...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Some updates: last week, i asked my husband, why do he think he has changed... This is his reply: "1 asked a lot of ppl, mostly husband or father... and realized that most men change after marriage and change even more after becoming a father... Woman doesn't change after marriage...
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    Unfaithful husband

    i'm no expert when it comes to r/s matters... but with a logical mindset, the reason given to TS for straying is too far-fetched... ridiculous... doesn't make sense... It will make better sense if the guy says it's lust & thrill, follow by addiction... I find addiction very very hard to...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Hi Milo, yes... Actually he is positive about our marriage... He says he now knows he really loves me alot... Backdate to couple years ago while we have dated for 3-4 years, he initiated a cool off period once because he doesn't know if he still loves me... He attributed the feelings loss due...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    hi milo & hweebs, thanks... now i guess the whole part about not reconciling is not about me... it's about him... After the affair, in his mind, he feels he already apologised, made his choice, want to change, and asked me out, and what more do i want? He's not the type who express...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    hi stardust, spend some time to think about it... you are thinking for the sake of your own happiness and your children's happiness... a complete but unhappy family doesn't mean best for the kids... why dun you want to fight for it? I can't answer scope guy qn above because i'm still trying...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    hi milo & scope guy, i guess i reached some sort of enlightenment after thinking thru whole night and even think in my dreams... i do agree i focused too much on TOW... if i really love him, whatever happens i will still love him and i'm also too focused on the hurt that i felt...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Btw, I would really like to thanks all for giving good advices around here... it does help to improve my thoughts and evaluation...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    hi sm, ouch... thanks for *smacking* me on head... i'm always unsure till now... but as days goes by, i understand my own feelings better... i actually do hope to reconcile but in my heart i can't let go yet because i cannot accept that he would hurt me in such a way so badly... i did...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Hi Scope Guy, Thanks... i understand your points above. But naturally i'm not a guy hence I cannot understand a guy thus i'm here seeking opinions... i disagree with the stereotyping that being the hurt spouse will always bring up the past events in quarrels. If i really reconcile and...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Hi Scope Guy, I think you misunderstood me as how far i love my husband... To some, love means to be able to forgive and forget... unconditional love... But in my perspective, love between spouses should only be exclusively to each other... i'm going to get a divorce not for the other...
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    Husband strayed - How should i move on?

    Hi dimpxtt, I agree that the affair will always be in our memories... But look at it this way, whether we split or reconcile, I will eventually need to accept this fact n move on... No pt dwelling on it... I have no prob being w/o him... Financially independent now... But I dun want to look...

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