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"i have the mindset of wanting to pull her down! i tried to tell myself that im already married to my husband, i shouldnt fear that he'll be gone." Excessive Jealousy can result in a man leaving, not necessarily some other woman, past, present or future. And this is what has caused your...

An ex from many years back asked me to return a couple of CDs that he lent me. I did not finish watching them before we broke up. He actually counted if any CD was missing when I returned them. Hahah. As for if I would use gifts from an ex, why not? These objects diminish greatly in...

Reading this thread brought back memories of my father when I was a child. Memories that I still hang on to, pathetically. Memories that are quickly fading with time and I would so love to create new ones with him before it is too late when death takes him away. I've tried for so long to...

Let me paraphrase something I read from a book sometime ago. Liken your mind to that of a garden at your backyard. You are the gardener who controls what goes into that garden. Negative thoughts you plant in your mind are weeds. Positive thoughts are your favorite flowers. Do you want a...

It boils down to taking time to understand ourselves. What makes us happy can be just staring at us in the face, but how will we know that is it if we dont know what we want? Only when we know what we want in life, will we be able to identify, hold onto them and be contented.

I believe that some things are better left unspoken. So, I will not ask about my partner's past relationships beyond what he is willing to share. I will not hesitate to stop him too if I find myself getting uncomfortable with too much details being shared. Granted that the past may explain...

Haha, doll... thanks. Indeed, it calls for a celebration to a new beginning. Ethel, each one of us has our own way of dealing with life situations and I hope you find what works best for you. I played by simple rules to get out of the rut. I focused on being kind and loving myself...

Hatred sucked the life out of me. Forgiveness, on the other hand, breathed new life into me. By this, I meant complete forgiveness on both myself and my ex-husband. You cannot forgive to a certain degree and yet, expect to live a full life after divorce. That equation does not work. And...

Tell his friends for what? It's your words against his. Who do you think HIS friends will believe? Just breakup with him.

Thinkk "It's always easier to say then do .." Of course, we all know that for a fact. Once you have this mentality, you are doomed. Everything will be tough, tiring and impossible.

powderful - practise yoga. it helps.

Thinkk Someone very dear to me divorced in her early 50's after years and years of mental and emotional stress in a failed marriage. It's been 3 years since the end of marriage, and I've never seen her this free and happy. I'm not saying that you should get a divorce now. Just bear in...

If he cried, begged for forgiveness and never ever cheat again, then yes, I say he made a mistake and he's repentent. But this man is crying for himself, dont you see? haha.. powderful had to make a disclaimer before exiting.

He cry for what?!

milo - you missed one of her posts. Thinkk corrected 3rd to 5th year of marriage when she found out about the affair.

powderful - knew you couldn't really just give up, although you said you would. haha

If that's the case, adjust your mindset. Don't be in denial that you are in a loving marriage. Accept that you are staying in the marriage for financial reasons, not love. It will help tremendously the next time you find out he's sleeping with some other woman yet again. Otherwise, start...

Thinkk The possibility of STD is very real here. We only have one life. Live it with no regrets. You asked: "Please lead me the way... i am totally lost.. coming 8 yrs of marriage with a guy whom i feel i could trust 100% or more & he's a gd husband who take care of wife perfectly...

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation with the wrong-doer as well.

I need to add that whatever the driving force is behind repeatedly cheating on you, it is still cheating. It really does not matter why because there is no good reason for repeated offenders. Alina - I can relate to you. I hope you found your happiness.