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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    i think i shall just prepare for an annulment or divorce, while i find some peace while i'm overseas. thanks for advise, this shall be my last post...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    He is staying at home mon-fri already, plus weekends we only met late noon onwards. Is that too little time for her? Reason why i didnt want to stay with her is bcos i found her too controlling. Even my SIL encourage us to move out bcos she knows her own mother is overbearing. MIL tells...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    perhaps u are right, i was silly to fall into this.... I thot since he bot a new hse for me, he will manage his mother better since he also wished she could change her attitude. Who knows he is still helpless under her
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    I knew her controlling nature during dating, I had also communicated to by then bf that i am not comfortable with her behaviour. Etc everytime we go out she will call him at 8pm+ asking where he is and wat time he going home. Then call again every hour asking the same and scold when he is not...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    i know he's weak infront of MIL so i didnt like the idea. Bcos she is constantly up with ideas for us to sell our house, and i dislike it bcos i know one day hb will give in and wants me to follow. I jus want to prevent it from happening. I had a hell time staying there and i'll do anything to...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    how can i accept her again? i'm trying hard but she just stirs problem and i cant help but desire to get as far away as possible with my hb. i know she tries to brainwash him bcos i hv heard her telling him not to listen to his wife, whatever hv to consult her first. I could tell she wants to...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    secretly i am planning to not to come back SG after i start my delegation overseas. Then slowly seek a divorce. I just cant get over... be it the flower incident or how she called to scold my mother that she dun know who to teach her daughter (me) when i stayed over maiden hse occassionally...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    I know there is no way out for this marriage anymore, maybe i just need some sort of confirmation which i am lacking.... I am unsure how to get annulment or divorce. I ever raised this to hb and he says he doesnt want to break up with me, but his relations with his mum is making me upset and...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    Its not that i want to restrict him to go back, i just didnt like the idea of him being brainwashed not to listen to his wife. The thot of her trying to control me by controlling my hb really makes me fear. Yes, i still cant let go of the nasty things that had happended, that's why i wished...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    "ur MIL can request it, but ur hubby don't hv to listen to whatever she demand." He is listening bcos MIL keep ranting she is his mother and he is indebted to her and has to listen to her. So maybe that's what drove me to find loop-holes and possibilities that they are not biological, then...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    thing is, hb have to work late at home jus bcos he spent the time to go back for dinner. I find it somewhat redundant. We stay far apart as well and its inconvenient. I am not so much concerned with the household chores, rather, I cant understand why he is so busy with work but yet cannot...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    Blur : On yr suggestion to go overseas, i am glad that i was recently offered a delegation to work overseas for 2 years. I somehow cant wait to go. Although to many other newly weds, some might even give up this opportunity just to be with their spouse. Am i abnormal to feel this way? I...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    often, hb will even admit that its his own wishes and not due to command of MIL. But i knew he claimed this way to make me less upset and hv no grounds to persuade him since it is his own decision. I knew it bcos things were ok till he receives calls from MIL. Just like when he was too busy...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    Blur: I know i hv to get hub not to be so obliging towards MIL, but no matter what i say, he can never. Bcos he says MIL has such terrible temper that anyone who goes against her wishes, she will create havoc in the family. So in order to hv peace at home, they all submit to her. If he makes MIL...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    Blur :I think its a combination of all If MIL is a problem, stay away from MIL >> She is too controlling If ur hubby is the problem, things become tricky.. >> He is too obliging towards MIL If the problem lies with u, u need to learn to sort it out urself >> I cant take it anymore and...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    My fren told me the red flower thing is a voodoo thing. After that, i overheard her telling my hb to tell me that the red flower only symbolise luck, no special intention.... that she accidently pressed my head bocs she lao hua and cant see clearly. In the first place, i kept quiet abt this...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    chris: my FIL is still around and they operate a business together (see each other 24 hours). SIL stays 3min walk from her house and comes over with her kids v frequently. I could be wrong but i somehow feel MIL is trying to secure a son for old age to depend on, so she will bite and not let go.
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    Milo: maybe i just refuse to face it that i hv married the wrong person. That's why i am seeking to get around resolving MIL issues, hopefully it can make my hb wake up. I was once admitted to hospital weeks after my wedding. Doc says its some unidentified virual fever. Then someone close to...
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    sometimes i feel hb is being "2Yu 4Xiao" as can never reject command from MIL. He is far beyond filial, despite that kind of treatment from MIL. He feels he is obligated since she birth to him (brainwashed already?).
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    Birth of 1st baby - had miscarriage - conceive 2nd child - 2nd BB delivered: All within one year?

    my hb ever told me that he thinks he'll never get married till the day his mum is no long around bcos he knows no other person outside his family can tolerate his mother. He says he is willing to resign to this fate. My hb is a good man, its a pity i hv to forgo him.. As much as i tried, i...

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