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    Re-opening a Divorce Case.

    You may not be able to vary the order. Usually happens when there is a change of circumstances. For example, if you or ex remarried, can try applying. Or if he abused the child. How old is he now? Age matters as well, as the child may be considered old enough to decide. Question that will be...
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    Seeking advice ..

    Negotiate with her to have c & c of both if the children are not following her to new marriage. As for maintenance she may want to pay less. You can consider letting her offer what she can afford as a parent. Also, for access you may want to relax a little instead of cast in stone unless she is...
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    Perspective

    To make things simple, pretend to be poor for a few outings to see who would be more giving. Women who have the princess mentality won't do anything for men, and that is a critical factor in choosing a wife, as you will need someone to go through hard times with. Don't forget to check the...
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    Unfaithful & Abusive husband

    Only the parent with care and control can do this. My son is intimidated to the extent that he would not dare to tell anything as he knows I can't protect him. Didn't even dare to report police when he got a bruised eye from his maternal grandfather as I know the police would not be fair and...
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    Perspective

    The reason you ask is you are not sure. That means you cannot choose either until you heart and mind are set. Sometimes the easiest way is to see the parents of both ladies. The way the parents behave towards each other will say a lot about your marriage life later on. That will take time to...
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    Feeling vexed

    What are his financial commitments? If these are parents, or investments then it makes sense. It is alright not to have a grand wedding with banquet. Given a choice I would say the same too. All that once in lifetime stuff is only for fairytales. Better to save for renovation than for a wedding...
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    Feeling down

    Don't waste your youth. He doesn't care and neither should you. Better to have no boyfriend than one who makes you miserable.
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    Unfaithful & Abusive husband

    The dark side to family law. Not to be used if you want to be a decent person. 1) good move with children staying with you at parents. You are allowed to deny all access to the children until divorce proceedings start and the judge starts to overrule. If he visits, start provoking him by...
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    Unfaithful & Abusive husband

    1) consider whether divorce is the best option. Perhaps you have been neglecting him during this time? Better try to work things out first. There are ways to "win" this as I have seen almost every common tactic available in the book. Question is whether you still want this marriage. 2) allow...
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    Feeling down

    Considered nice already. He should appreciate you more. Some women expect men to pay for everything and just want to make use of them.
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    I need help in my marriage

    Agreed. Women don't want weak men. Unless they just want a maid. There are marriages where weak men survive but it's really like a master slave relationship. Same if women are too submissive. Think men would rather just hire maids if they need one as they have everything to lose if marriage fails.
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    I need help in my marriage

    Probably good reasons why she divorced before. This sounds so much like my ex wife. The moment the marriage certificate is obtained, all hell breaks loose. She was gentle and sweet so you would marry her. Now you will have to face the reality of our marriage system. You don't have to do...
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    Feeling down

    Marriage down and divorce up. This trend won't stop until the ministers risk losing their jobs for it. Modern marriage serves no purpose other than to legalise parenthood. If there are ways to get children without marriage, many men would probably pay to do so.
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    Happy stories

    Beg to differ. Was living apart from ex wife for almost entire marriage and didn't even stray. You could literally put naked women in front of me and I would still not waver. Think articles out there show that when men visit prostitutes there is no love and only guilt. It doesn't seem like a...
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    Feeling down

    Simple reasoning: tell her that no one will marry a woman with a controlling mother. It will only end in divorce. Ask her if she wants you to be happy. If she does, she has to consider that one day, she won't be around and by them it may be too late for you, as you will be all alone. My ex has...
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    Happy stories

    Why is there a demand in the first place? Should ask if the married men still have any intimacy in their marriage life. If their wives keep refusing, what do they do after many years? Become monks? Maybe there should be more marriage preparation courses for couples to know how to love. Some...
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    start blacklist of MSF related organisations

    Based on experience, Fei Yue at bukit batok enables child abusers and allows them to get away with child abuse. If anyone has been assigned to have their child's case investigated there just contact me make firm request to change. Care corner, recently moved from toa payoh, has a track record...
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    Feeling down

    Depends on what you want in life. If you desire independence, can choose to move out. However, it can also be lonely to stay alone.
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    Red flags - guys and girls

    If you are married to him don't worry. There is no department in government that will help any man. Tried and tested plus even asked minister if he can accept those standards for himself. So there you go, use the women's charter to get him to behave.
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    Happy stories

    Something positive. Scolded ex father in law in public for not having proper upbringing and not bringing up his daughter properly. Also told him to wait for his son's turn to reveive the same crap he gave since he thinks what he did was right. Faith in humanity restored. That felt really good...

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