Exploiting means you enjoy at expense of your partner. Taking advantage. Not difficult to comprehend pooling resources and maximising what the couple can achieve together. Not just financially, commitment is in all aspects. Many MCP men thinks all they need to provide financially, the rest is just his partner to cope.
When you protect yourself against danger in the right situation, its common sense. Everyone can understand, wheen a person KEEPS huge buffers themselves believing they need to protect themselves against their life long partner. It reflects alot. It reflects on the personality, integrity, ethics and basic values on what is right and acceptable. It reflects SELF CENTEREDNESS. It reflects the inability to trust, on how little faith they have about their marriage and relationships on the whole. It reflects that relationship isn't that great at all. Then why marry? Because of other reasons than the relationship itself?
He/she is marrying someone, willing to legally accept as husband and wife but believes it will fail. As I explained before, some people will never let go of their baised insecurity and its really too bad for the partner. You choose someone like this, you live with it. For myself, it is absolutely important that my partner trust me because of the relationship itself and for who I am. The man she knows and chose to marry. If the marriage fails, I will still want the best for her. So, there is no need to keep buffers.