Divorce, what is the procedure?


danedane79

New Member
Hi,

I am seeking for advice on the most cost effective procedure for annulment of marriage/divorce?

It is amicable, mutual consent. no flats, no children involved.
The marriage is less than 3 years.

There is communication but spouse(SPR) is not in Singapore for 2 years.

Would appreciate advice.
 

sgbabydoll

Active Member
Dane, can't go for divorce since the marriage is under three years. If annulment is not an option, you can wait for the marriage to reach three years before you commence divorce proceedings.
 

danedane79

New Member
yes, it does.

but how does one prove non-consummation? must we seek doc certification?

the mere fact that we are apart in 2 diff countries since rom is proof right?
 

jeriahnanuq

New Member
With my divorce, we had reached a standoff and couldn't agree to several issues... rather than have it go before a judge, we first went to mediation. A third party, in my instance a neutral attorney, sat with us and helped us to reach a middle ground on everything except one issue.it was really helpful, because obviously, when you can compromise it is better than having someone else (like a judge) make decisions for you.


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sgbabydoll

Active Member
You forgot to say that mediation is costly. Each session will set you back by $800 as you need to pay your lawyer and the court.
 

simpleman

Active Member
Wah.. costly.. I wonder why couples don't settle themselves amicably..

doll,

The lawyer was telling me.. if every case like mine.. so simple and easy, she will have a very easy job. Cos I have agreement with my wife on all points prior to filing the divorce and she just needed a minor change to one of the paragraph.
 

lonewolfed

New Member
hi there

may i ask whether there is a cutoff point during the divorce proceedings when the wife can no longer file for alimony?

We have initially decided to part amicably without alimony and 50/50 from the sale of the flat but due to some differences, she now threaten that she can go to women's charter anytime to file for alimony from me. Any truth to this? Am I gonna get screwed as and when she feel like it?
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sgbabydoll

Active Member
Ed, is the divorce finalised?

In theory, there is no time limit on when she can apply for alimony as long as she remains single.

In practice, it depends on whether it is before or after the court rules. If it is post court decision, then she must have very good reasons to justify her application or re-application.

Don't panic yet because the alimony amount cannot be plucked from the sky. It is dependent on not a single factor - her wish. And not all are lost yet, try to go back being amicable and reach an agreement with her.

I am not in the legal profession and this is what little I know.
 

siobhanlee

New Member
Lawyers will usually advise the women to ask for a nominal amount of alimony - even $1 a year because it preserves them the right to ask for more money later. but even with that, there must be enough justification to ask for more alimony (eg.loss of job, major illness etc).

So, if she had not applied for any alimony at all during the divorce application, her chances of obtaining it post divorce will be slim. Why not ask your lawyer too. I'm sure they provide u with more accurate info.
 

sgbabydoll

Active Member
Unless it is stated blatantly in the divorce papers that she does not want alimony, technically speaking she can apply for alimony any time as long as she did not remarry. But in truth, like Siobhan has said, "there must be enough justification to ask for more alimony".

Remember, qualified to apply does not mean will get. Even if awarded alimony the amount is decided by the court after understanding the lifestyle needs of both parties.
 

simpleman

Active Member
Ed,

I think since the divorce is dissolved you could be quite safe in the sense.

The divorce papers will normally mention about alimony. If there is none now, unlikely to change unless something drastic happens.

But I suggest you still try to be amicable to her.. don't get into unnecessary arguments.

The marriage is dissolved.. what is the point of further argument..
 

lonewolfed

New Member
thanks guys.

this divorce has really driven me to almost brink of insanity. at times i feel so full of hate that i want to smash anything, just anything.

i find myself wondering around on weekends just to avoid coming back home(we still live under same roof albeit in separate rooms)

i feel so aged, so tired. now i'm totally drained. i've lost my youth, energy, resources for something i thought would turn out right. i was so wrong. i cannot turn back time now. although divorced, but i'm utterly defeated by life.
 

m_m

New Member
looking at all these sad stories make me more misearable. We just got married less than 3 months, but we have been together for 8 years, he betrayed me before we married but i forgave him again and again when he told me he will changed. but what a shame that i caught him having affair again, this is really heartbreaking...so painful...i don't know what to do, there is no more excuse i can give myself to forgive him, but i really love him..in front of me, he is a nice husband..please help..shall i go for divorce? can i have a recommendation for a good lawyer? thanks.
 

s123

New Member
Anyone can help me... I have been married for about 2yrs and I knew my husband for about 7yrs. Initially for the 1st yr he dumped me and reconciled with his ex. then they broke off and he came back to me. I accepted it immediately. The 4th yr he wanted to apply flat and during that time I don't know if we received the key we've to ROM. So after waited for another 41/2 yrs the flat was ready and we married. Thereafter, he started his part time property job... His character is low profile, quiet, not quite flexible in doing things whereas mine is like to talk (but not talkative) like to act childish ways to attract his attention, my memory is good I can remember whatever he said and did whereas he have short memory. He only can do one thing at a time whereas I can generate a lot. In fact I’m more energetic than him (I’m not a sporty girl). This happened 2 1/2yrs back.. I met this guy. He is younger than me by 5yrs we chat a lot share a lot of things, we debate we quarrel. We have so much in common and having the same frequency. In fact we're together for those 21/2yrs. Now currently, he wanted to stop and has already avoided me. His reasons are he knew he's unable to see future with me and he doesn’t want to be guilty to my husband and break up my family. (The fact is he already did) I have confessed to my husband he forgave me but I can’t forgive myself (i swear I never have sex with this guy) I can’t forgive myself is because I already love this guy too deep and unable to turn back anymore. Although I promise my husband to give ourselves a yr again. But I just couldn’t get him off my mind (this whole incident happened 3 days ago) I have been crying everyday I couldn’t sleep at all. I know I deserve all these but this guy is really my soul mate. I wanted to file separation or divorce but at times i cant bear because my husband is really a good man (but not a good lover)these few days even when my husband wanted to hold my hands or kiss me I would feel uncomfortable...I afraid my love for him already gone and what is left is only responsibility. I really miss this guy so much I keep on texting him but he never reply. I’m heartbroken... I deserve to be alone till dead. Please give me some light. Thanks
 

sgbabydoll

Active Member
You break someone's heart and you have your heart broken. That's life. You really have to move on with or without either of these men. In life sometimes there is no knight in shining armour to save you from your dismay. You got to save yourself.
 

enah

New Member
Hi goodevening..i just met the guy last april,and we got married here in singapore last july 2012..we dont have enough foundation for our relationship..i know its stupid..now i realized everything..after our marriage in sg he went back to the phils..basically,marriage is just nothing here..i did not file our marriage in phils..in phils,im still single..now we broke up already..no contacts at all..now im thinking what to do for the next..do i need to file an annulment or divorced??please..help me
 

simonchue76

New Member
Hi,I am Simon I would like to seek for some advise. My wife want to divorce. It due to we have less communication between both of us . I due to jealous of the her friend .I hit him in front of her. As I just change job , my salary is much lesser than before so she have to work very hard to cover the expense. As she work for long hour . We have less time together. A lot of misunderstand happened. More time is spend with the worker and colleagues.
I still hope that we can get back together again . As I really do not want to destroy this happy family with my two child.
Seek your advice.
Regards
Simon
 

buddhabar

Active Member
Hi,I am Simon I would like to seek for some advise. My wife want to divorce. It due to we have less communication between both of us . I due to jealous of the her friend .I hit him in front of her. As I just change job , my salary is much lesser than before so she have to work very hard to cover the expense. As she work for long hour . We have less time together. A lot of misunderstand happened. More time is spend with the worker and colleagues.
I still hope that we can get back together again . As I really do not want to destroy this happy family with my two child.
Seek your advice.
Regards
Simon

women do not like violent men
you made a very impulsive mistake
 

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