Re-opening a Divorce Case.

joycegian

New Member
Hi all. I had my divorce 6years ago.
Terms was supervised visit for me. And it's set on 2 days at a strict timing. My ex husband wasn't flexible on this and I had to stick to what was black on white in the terms for Divorce. Also on the terms, it is said that we have to open a shared account from 2015 onwards and I have to contribute a sum monthly, and when my son turns 16, all the money will go to my son (Only I am contributing, but it is under his & my name).
I have been dragging this opening of shared account as I don't feel safe or make sense that I am only the one putting in money but it is under both mine and his name. Who knows when my son turns 16, he might take the money from my son instead. As in the past when we are still married. He borrowed alot of money from me. And when I left his home and wanted a divorce, he agreed to paid me the money he owed me but he just wanted my son. I agreed as I have no job nor home back than and have no ways to support me son.
I need some advise as to what happen as if he opens the case, am I able to fight back? Back than I was young, and as all the disagreements was happening back than, I didn't have much money to fight on anymore and just agreed to whatever terms he came with.
 

jkwedding308

Active Member
From what you've mentioned briefly, it appears that the divorce mainly went in favour of your ex with him getting custody of your son and him setting the black and white terms of the divorce itself. If this is truly the case, why would he need to reopen the case for you to fight back? Unless there are other aspects that you have not fully highlighted as yet, if anyone were to reopen the case, I would have expected it to be you rather than your ex as divorce cases tend to be reopened by the less-favoured party and not the other way round... Also, what exactly were the terms re the shared bank account for your son? If it is truly a shared account in all its true meaning, then why isn't your ex also contributing to the fund instead of just you alone? You mentioned that this account was meant to be opened from 2015 onwards and that you've been dragging it - so has the account been opened yet or not? If yes, was it opened on the terms for any one party (either you or your ex) to sign to withdraw money or for both to sign before money can be taken out? If the account has yet to be opened, then I would suggest that you opt for the latter option since it seems that you're concerned that your ex may just take the money instead of your son receiving it. Then when your son turns 16, both of you can sign for the sum to be withdrawed and deposited into an account that is purely under your son's name alone...
 

life_is

Active Member
You may not be able to vary the order. Usually happens when there is a change of circumstances. For example, if you or ex remarried, can try applying. Or if he abused the child. How old is he now? Age matters as well, as the child may be considered old enough to decide. Question that will be asked may be why you didn't want to take care of him then and only now.
 

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