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I like the way you use the tern “ allow”. I rest my case.

Your concept of love is destructive. It is better if you do not love others. Focus your energy on being a friend and companion first. Spouses are not pets.

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The role of the RC is to resolve such issues.

Maintaining a relationship is so much harder as u progress in life. If so early in your life... and already so difficult, why force yourself. It takes 2 hands to clap., if u slowly fade away in his life, and he still dun remember you, whatever u do or propose, will make no difference.

SO is only child. The parents and SO comes as a package. No way can u delink them. For SO to be his own man, he has to work min 2yrs to develop his own mindset independently of his parents. There are many more fish in the sea. Not saying bad abt SO, but your concerns are very real n high...

After 10yrs together, it is perfectly normal to get stale. Usually, its time for a kid, and thats a whole new phase to discover. Seems like the mid life crisis has come early for you, and thats normal too, u are wondering.. with him.. whsts next? Is this really all there is? So solution is...

You can div now and transfer the flat to either party as long as either party is eligible to own the flat solely. No need wait for MOP. MOP simply does not allow u to sell off to third party. Loan interest and the accrued cpf interest hv to be factored in.

Whatever path u choose to take, for the sake of the kids, dont burn bridges. Keep things civil no matter hw emo things will get. Any hint of nastiness will leave a lasting impression on the kids

U hv to ask yourself what is the purpose of a marriage. Does marriage means u own/control him? A married man is still a guy. If u believe marriage means getting a pet, then just tell him so. Marriage life is sooo much more complicated once the kid comes out, its better u get the mindset...

Danielle What u are expecting from your spouse is not a nice man, but a puppy. Clearly, he is not, and I doubt he will ever be. Everything that has been written so far, is all about your point of view, and how he has failed to live up to your expectations. I don't see any reason to be...

Danielle, If he is such a nice guy in the eyes of everyone, why u wanna leave him? My view is that u should treasure what u have, accept him for who he is. If u have an issue with him not meeting up to yr expectation of a spouse, then I would think the problem is managing yr expectations...

Tired.. No point u go on feeling frustrated about this relationship. Relationship shd be enriching and fulfilling. I suggest u have a talk with her about the ultimatum. U sound like a nice guy that many ladies can appreciate. If your partner can't appreciate you for who u are, and what u...

Tired.. I have been in your shoes, and I understand the part about holding back to maintain harmony. It's a quick fix solution that is actually a ticking timebomb. Counselling does not work. My advice is.. go on a holiday.. and discuss with her.. what is her vision of a family unit. Whether...

Your Idea to bring the kid over to start the normal family life is the mature thing to do. Her resistance is understandable. It's tough looking after a kid, and since got free caretaker, why not. That's the easy way out. U did not mention about marriage plans. I don't want to assume...