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I agree with Miloice's theory because I have been in your wife's position minus the pregnancy. My husband was overseas for 3 years for his study. I was in SG all these while. I am really envious when I see others with their partners and I have to manage everything myself. I would visit his...

Hi Cremechoc, Reading your situation is like deja vu again. Just wish to let you know that you are not alone in such situation. There are a couple of us with very similar cases. PM me if you need a listening ear.

Hi Danielle367, did not get your PM. Why not just email me at [email protected]?

I know sooner or later I will be able to accept "normal company" but is just not now. Not when the wound is raw. Just want someone that I can relate to. Be it people that have been through or going through currently. For "normal company", is it always have to be on husband and kids? Can't the...

Hi momoftwo, what do you mean by "eternal misery"?

Hi Danielle, I am in a very similar situation as yourself. I am at a cross road of to salvage or to exit. Nearly 40 years old now, have been with him for almost 18 years and nothing comes of it. But he is the one that always ask for separation and this is the 3rd time. Most probably I will...

Hi pasir_ris_beach, sorry to hear what you are going through. Your hb still in contact with her? Any actions from him to show that he is truely remosed? Maybe ask yourself what is it that you want. No anyone else but yourself and how you can achieve that. If patch up, please ensure that this...

Hi Maggies, like what the rest mentioned, it is really managing expectations. But to me, it is managing YOUR OWN expectations. For my case, I have come to terms that I am not his top priority and I accept it as this is him. I cannot expect him to change because of me rather he wants to...

Hi Maggies, maybe let me let me tell you about my story... I have been together with my partner for a very long time, since school days. All along he is a very sweet and caring person. However he does have a tendency to be a workaholic and spends a lot of time at work. But he has no fail to...

Milo, I totally agree with you that acceptance of reality is the first step to healing.

Yi Ling, support from someone is very important regardless is it family, friends, counsellors. Maybe you have been bottoming up your emotions. Try to release them. Talk to someone. Start making friends. Things will get better when you start working. Have some time for yourself. Pick up some...

For depression, medical help is useful. I have visited pyscologist and psychiatrist but I am not insane. I just needed someone to listen and understand. It is sometimes helpful to speak to someone that does not pass any judgement. Counsellors are often good to provide a listening ear. It is...

Hi Yi Ling, I have been to psychologist and psychiatrist before. I pour out all my anger and grievances to the pyschologist. It is like a step towards recovery as no one can understand how I felt. I no longer see them now. But occassionally I still felt that I am in depression but I sort of...

Yah. Some times I always wonder why 2 person who had been in love can be so cruel during divorce. By being upset with him, the only person that will feel the negative impact is only yourself. Really no point. Of course you have all the rights to feel upset. Let yourself be upset, angry...

Piggy, ignore him. He is trying to show that he is a loving father. As long as you stay strong, I am sure the custody will be yours. Slowly heal yourself and love yourself. If you do not love yourself, nobody will. Take good care of yourself so that you can care better for your gal. Talk...