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You may not be able to vary the order. Usually happens when there is a change of circumstances. For example, if you or ex remarried, can try applying. Or if he abused the child. How old is he now? Age matters as well, as the child may be considered old enough to decide. Question that will be...

Negotiate with her to have c & c of both if the children are not following her to new marriage. As for maintenance she may want to pay less. You can consider letting her offer what she can afford as a parent. Also, for access you may want to relax a little instead of cast in stone unless she is...

To make things simple, pretend to be poor for a few outings to see who would be more giving. Women who have the princess mentality won't do anything for men, and that is a critical factor in choosing a wife, as you will need someone to go through hard times with. Don't forget to check the...

Only the parent with care and control can do this. My son is intimidated to the extent that he would not dare to tell anything as he knows I can't protect him. Didn't even dare to report police when he got a bruised eye from his maternal grandfather as I know the police would not be fair and...

The reason you ask is you are not sure. That means you cannot choose either until you heart and mind are set. Sometimes the easiest way is to see the parents of both ladies. The way the parents behave towards each other will say a lot about your marriage life later on. That will take time to...

What are his financial commitments? If these are parents, or investments then it makes sense. It is alright not to have a grand wedding with banquet. Given a choice I would say the same too. All that once in lifetime stuff is only for fairytales. Better to save for renovation than for a wedding...

Don't waste your youth. He doesn't care and neither should you. Better to have no boyfriend than one who makes you miserable.

The dark side to family law. Not to be used if you want to be a decent person. 1) good move with children staying with you at parents. You are allowed to deny all access to the children until divorce proceedings start and the judge starts to overrule. If he visits, start provoking him by...

1) consider whether divorce is the best option. Perhaps you have been neglecting him during this time? Better try to work things out first. There are ways to "win" this as I have seen almost every common tactic available in the book. Question is whether you still want this marriage. 2) allow...

Considered nice already. He should appreciate you more. Some women expect men to pay for everything and just want to make use of them.

Agreed. Women don't want weak men. Unless they just want a maid. There are marriages where weak men survive but it's really like a master slave relationship. Same if women are too submissive. Think men would rather just hire maids if they need one as they have everything to lose if marriage fails.

Probably good reasons why she divorced before. This sounds so much like my ex wife. The moment the marriage certificate is obtained, all hell breaks loose. She was gentle and sweet so you would marry her. Now you will have to face the reality of our marriage system. You don't have to do...

Marriage down and divorce up. This trend won't stop until the ministers risk losing their jobs for it. Modern marriage serves no purpose other than to legalise parenthood. If there are ways to get children without marriage, many men would probably pay to do so.

Beg to differ. Was living apart from ex wife for almost entire marriage and didn't even stray. You could literally put naked women in front of me and I would still not waver. Think articles out there show that when men visit prostitutes there is no love and only guilt. It doesn't seem like a...

Simple reasoning: tell her that no one will marry a woman with a controlling mother. It will only end in divorce. Ask her if she wants you to be happy. If she does, she has to consider that one day, she won't be around and by them it may be too late for you, as you will be all alone. My ex has...