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My housemate announced yesterday he's getting married. We were all happy (but doubtful) for him. His girl isn't really mature yet and still lazy but then it's not our business so we just zipped. This morning I asked him how does he feel now that he's getting married. He said aiya getting...

It's been a while since TS first posted. What's the update?

If you're practical, ask your bf his budget. Browse around in the beginning. And when you're ready to buy, go to jewelry stores and ask to see their list of diamond ring inventory. Usually they have a spreadsheet. Compare all the rings within your budget. Don't even look at the rings itself...

We've attended the marriage preparation course many years before - it's really good. The course we did was done by a church and it helped us better understand each other's personality, conflict styles, finances (including any debts that your other half may not know about), how to deal with...

I felt the same way sometimes, Suess. Best is to keep a safe distance. Whatever you need to communicate to them, do it via your spouse. Plus, don't let their opinion on things affect you. You certainly don't need their opinion in anything. And, you'll never be their daughter so don't even get...

I used to call the ILs 'ma and pa' but somehow my MIL didn't like it hahaha... ok fine. She said to call 'mother and father'. I guess she wants to keep a certain distance. I was fine with them and used to really like them and enjoy their company. Over time, they started to have a lot of...

Jaron that's too much lah. TS, could you ask him to move out? You continue to stay in the flat for the next two years, and when you turn 35, take over the flat from him without giving him any money or CPF back. That's the least he could give you after all these years, plus it was him who...

Don't move out. Why should you move out? Let him move out.

The question you should drill down to yourself is .. Why are you feeling this way? Ask yourself "why" five times. For example: Why do I feel this way? He doesn't seem to care. Why doesn't he seem to care? He is always busy and have no time for me. Why is he always busy? He has to travel for...

I agree that basic minimum and snaking off is avoidance - I'd suggest that only if TS has no way out of the work position. Sooner or later, wifey and SIL will notice it and make lots of noise. Well, let them 'fire' him loh! I personally would do this if I have no way out but want out. It feels...

Why would you leave another woman's clothes in the house if you really did what she said? Sometimes men need to tell their wives that she's gone too far to the point she is abusive. Hope things work out better.

Look for ways out of the company. Clearly SIL doesn't appreciate you at work and so is wife now. It's better for you to leave the workplace now and save whatever good is left in the r'ship with wife. Or, do only the basic minimum at work and snake off often. Offer to deal with out of office...

Well, if you give the guy the impression you're one-up them, no one will be interested. I'm afraid the fact that you identify yourself as a high achiever is itself a superiority complex. Make an effort to put your prejudices aside. Swans, you can find someone your equal but that probability is...

Why are you the one bending over backwards on this big life event?