Agree with all the points made above by infernolord. You are now trying to justify your cheating act and you should stop before it getting messier. You are in a relationship problem and an easy prey for guys out there...the guy just need to shower you with all the attention and affection that...
I am not an expert but I think you need to identify why you are feeling what you are feeling now? Do you have proof that he is cheating? The fact that he does not want a divorce probably because he treasure his family? I think if a man want to leave, he will not be bother and will leave...
I am so sorry to hear that. I can feel you as I have gone through this $hit before.
At the end of the day, you yourself is the one who need to make the decision. do you think you can still trust her after this? Forgiving someone is a very hard thing to do especially those who is close to you. I...