Recent content by ing1

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    Anger and Domestic Violence

    Omg.. U gotten kicked before? Better think twice *10x before you sign. But why did u decide to propose to her despite of the anger issue and violence?
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    I can't live with my mil anymore..

    Maybe get an independent third party to talk to yr MIL, eg. her sisters/brothers if she has any?
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    23 years of marriage...throw in the towel?

    Then u "go on strike". [emoji14]
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    Husband and hp games

    Problem 1: has he been playing games recently or since you know him? Problem 2: does he pay for family expenses? Or help to pay for family expenses? What is the allowance for?
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    To get married or not?

    Hi, seems like it is the DAD who needs to go counselling instead. Did you ask your boyfriend why does he think his dad debts is "logical"? Have to understand the underlying issues too. I can now totally understand your stance on wedding dinner and I would do the same too. Marriage...
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    To get married or not?

    I am confused. So is your boyfriend rich or not? Else where did he get the 10k to buy the ring?? Or he was in debt? Or is he still in debt?? Why does your mother even need to sponsor your japan trip just so that both of you can have a memorable engagement? How old are you guys? Why are you...
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    Tricky Case - In law moving in

    If this is the case, then its very easy. Get a helper and clean everyday. Get your husband to pay. If he feels the pinch, then he will have to speak to his dad and settle with him. I understand you are looking forward to your 二人世界 . Talk things over nicely with your BF. Filial piety is...
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    Tricky Case - In law moving in

    Dear TS, I believe you are aware that marriage is not just about the 2 of you. You will be marrying into his family and your children will be carrying his surname. And i also believe family traits, so your BF may even have the same habits as your future FIL which you do not like. If you can...
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    what should i do to make him stay?

    Do you remember what exactly happened between both of you 5.5 years ago? I believe the friend's question 5.5 years ago was just a trigger. Or what could have happened recently that brought up the trigger again?
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    Tricky Case - In law moving in

    Put yourself in your BF's shoes, what if its your dad who is going to stay with you? Will you react the same way? and how would you feel if your BF react the same way as how you reacted now?
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    Husband offering beer to lady at the bar

    So to you, what is wrong with buying the lady a drink at the bar?
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    8years of relationship (broke up before banquet and ROM)

    Fights and arguments are unavoidable in a relationship but if she is reluctant to come back, could it be that you have not changed your ways as you promised previously? Or this the first time she spoke her mind with regards to your way of communication and behaviour? When a woman gives up, she...
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    Bridesmaids and groomsmen angbao

    hmm. If yes, then why should they not give ang paos to the newly weds, just like any other guests who are invited to the banquet? wait, are you the newly wed couple? or the 1 of the bridesmaids/groomsmen?
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    Bridesmaids and groomsmen angbao

    Are they invited to the banquet?
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    Torn btwn having solemnisation together with banquet or separate days

    Hmmm, why not do tea ceremony after the lunch? Doing tea ceremony does not have to be in an auspicious hour, right? Or if not, make the ceremony simple and sweet, just do immediate family, citing tight schedule. I am sure they will understand. Starting day early May not help in your case if...