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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    I'm sorry to hear that Adelene. If one party has decided to give up, then there is really nothing left to be done except to pick up the pieces and move on. Take care of yourself and your kids. I wish u all the best!!!
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    Married 2 months.... And its all spiraling down~

    Thanks lonely desire 78 for the encouragement. It been 3yrs if on n off, worse still a child is involved in the picture. I think I have learnt to accept this fact/emotion as part of my life to move on, like a scar that has healed, numb but it present. I agree with what you said if she value...
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    Married 2 months.... And its all spiraling down~

    Just to share another view about girls. Some (or may be many) just want to hear what they want to hear. So, any other unwanted answers are politically wrong, however factually right they are. I believe the above statement applies to most of us as well.. Haha.. I think we men are factual...
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    Married 2 months.... And its all spiraling down~

    No matter how true her friends opinions are negative or detrimental, the sad fact is that they are coming from the women who "presumably" understand her emotions. With you critizing her is tricky business. Like my ex partner, when I tell her how she is wrong sometimes with her thoughts or...
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    Married with a kid 3yo and going to divorce

    I am glad to hear that. As a suggestion, it may be a good idea to see a marriage counsellor. Sometimes when both parties tried and failed, it may take a 3rd party to be the bridge between 2 parties. Everybody loves a happy ending and I hope u find it..
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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    I have the same thinking as you bro. However, unfortunately, from ladies point of view, they do not communicate the way we would like to ideally. They "assume" over time, we have understood them and if we had "think of them and care about their feelings", we would not have done or said what we...
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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    Hi Adelene, I hope you are not offended, but how do u know when your hubby is lying? Just to give your hubby the benefit of doubt, Sometimes we men get frustrated and tired especially when we are making the effort to change but the opposite sex will look out for the tiniest of "signs" and...
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    Married with a kid 3yo and going to divorce

    Yes, the child may suffer, key word is MAY. If u look at it the other way, is it going to be healthy for a child to grow up in an environment where quarrels and fights exist everyday? Kids need a loving surrounding to grow up well. Whether u choose to stay or leave the relationship, the child is...
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    Married 2 months.... And its all spiraling down~

    Hey bro.. Pls calm down, one thing good is that you are very clear and focus on your destiny. I always believe in one thing, it the Decision that make a marriage works. The bright side is 50% (from you) of the problem is solved, just have to work on the other half. I was just talking to my Frd...
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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    Hey Adelene! I am so glad to hear that. I will pray for you that everything will turn out fine. Just to share another quote which I hope will help u when things get a bit challenging. This is what FAITH is about, u can't wait until you see it before u decide to believe it. You have to believe...
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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    Thanks for the greeting Adelene. The only feeling I dun hide is when I am angry.. Haha.. I trying to recover and look at the positive side of things now. Juz read a verse from Joel Osteen. "Where you are is never permanent". I feel that it applies to everybody.. We will all get out of our rut...
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    Unreasonable behaviour from wife

    Yes Adelene, I got the phrase from a divorced friend when I was seeking advice from him regarding my brother divorce last year. Yes, can't agree more if things can come to an END and reset like a blackboard. I guess we will know we have recovered when we can look at our situation and ex without...
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    Unreasonable behaviour from wife

    Hi bro. Pls think twice about not seeing your child. I had the same thought as you 3yrs ago before he was borned. We agreed that we will cut all contact and not see my child. By some dramatic twist & turns ( I mean it) I saw my bb boy. For the past 3 yrs, it was an emotional struggle both...
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    Advise needed for Divorce with 2 kids or stay in a marriage without love

    The feeling hurt when you see the hope in them and your current situation is out of your control. Correct me if I has misinterpret your situation. Possible to speak to your ex regarding your son feeling? After separation, the relationship should be less tensed and easier to communicate better...
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    Unreasonable behaviour from wife

    I empathize with your situation. The hard truth is you may never find the real reason why it broke down. Phases of an end relationship: Denial - Acceptance - Self Guilt - Recovery Hang out with friends or preoccupy yourself with work. Pick up a new hobby like going to gym or running/swimming, it...

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