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To be honest, if i can choose again i will not get marry. There are many stresses in a marriage ie. kids, financial, in laws and etc.... I will always lose out to his mistress. He is so stress free with her, enjoying life together without the stress in a marriage. With a wife, he has to bear...

Yes ar. He said that to me when we later discussed about the reasons of his infidelity. Recently I read up a lot on the reasons of a cheating husband. I am now convinced that it happens even in good marriages. The problem didn't lies in our marriage, it's purely on the mindset of the cheater :(

He even given me an example that he loves his 2 children equally. At that time when he loves her he didn't love me any lesser. It cannot be calculated like maths 40/60 %. Well i almost vomit blood when i heard this. I feel that he thinks the problem lies with me. I am selfish & jealous that I...

Only now I realize that there is a flaw in the marriage vows. It should added a statement like " I will be faithful until death.. "

He didn't think that he has broken his marriage vows "...to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death" ... He still love me and will take care of me until death...

What is WC?

This morning during our normal chatting about marriage & relationship, my husband asked me "why man cannot have more than one wife? If within his financial capability, is it good that the man can take care & support more woman? Last time man can have more than one wife, right ? " @_@

I am in the same boat. Now seems like everything back to normal. The difference is i am not the same me anymore. I will love myself more & will spend his credit card more than before. And will be more alert and not taking him for granted. Nobody knows the future. Just have to keep my fingers...

What's that apps? Workable in both iphone & Android phone?

If he doesn't fool around with woman now, then he has keeps his promise to you. When you think back the incident happened last year and you don't feel heart pain then you are healed. But if you still feel bitter then i think it is tough to stay on with him for the rest of your life.

It has been a year since the last post. Is there any success stories to share that the betrayed spouse had overcome the emotion, hurt, heart pain, anger, bitter... and etc ? How's the marriage now? Is it stronger than before? Please share ... we need some encouragements here. Thanks

Hi Roxie, I think man & woman handle emotions differently. Like my husband, I don't think he can recover so fast or have no emotion on my/mistress hurt. Just that man is very selfish creature and tends to bury his emotions and focus on other things like work/sport. Man doesn't like us to bring...

He said since I have forgiven him & gave him 2nd chance, i should let go and move forward and shouldn't post him any questions on the affair anymore. Yes, i forgive but forgiven doesn't mean i will forget and forgiven doesn't mean of denial of nothing has happened. How can i let go of the hurt...

Hi Roxie, Nice to hear from you. My eldest one is 16 and youngest one is 8. Too late to hear of your advices. I already pushed him for the details of his affair. Same like your initial thought, i thought if he came clean & honest of all the questions that I asked then I can be healed faster but...

Is it safe to use a spyware ? I understand that spyware can access to chat / call / log history of the phone usage. If the software company is not reliable , it can basically hack into the hubby accounts, credit card info, singpass password , internet banking and etc. Pls enlighten me, thanks. I...