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if you want the custody of your child, it would be easier if you are holding a job with a stable income. i believe the the judge will look at your financial situation as well as the most suitable environment for the child. Being jobless will do you no good and likely affect your chances of...

Wedding is a couple event , unless you marry up ( significantly ) else both of you should share and bear the full cost together. This includes the entire event from wedding preparation, gown, suits, photoshoot, dinner banquet etc All the angbaos , except those from the 6 tables for your mom's...

TS, the context here seems to be about overseas student exchange program since the mentioned are in the early 20s with parents visiting them . Correct me if i am wrong. So how do you feel looking thru his chat history ? déjà vu ? was that how you two started too? obviously he is flirting behind...

i don't understand how your wife could be so affirmative on the divorce given it was only "evening walks" or did she found out you committed adultery which is not mentioned in your post. i do feel for you on the aftermath especially being ostracized by your very own family. but...

It's clear to see your role as a provider for the family has diminished over time now that the children are grown up and your wife no longer needs you or rather will NOT be helpless without you. You were nothing more than a material ,financial pillar in your family and unfortunately you didn't...

what advice are you seeking? it's right down to yourselves. if you can truly forgive and forget, you should do so and there will be a great chance you 2 can be happy ever after with a beautiful family. Set it right affirmatively and move on whole heartedly ( and nothing less). For this chosen...

Err... what do you mean by you went " overboard " ? you texted him nasty things or texting non stop relentlessly ? The formal is subjective, but the latter is certainly an obsessive behavior disorder. if it's a medical condition, please seek treatment. No normal person will be able to live...

Holding on for kids sake is being naïve. because kids aint dumb like we were as kids. they know when daddy and mommy aint talking not to mention fighting. i believe kids are better off with a single parent then 2 fighting parents. it's too toxic for them, if you even care about them.

Why cant people just wait till the dust have settle before starting another relationship. is that so difficult. Having a relationship during separation is just asking for trouble IMO. This will only trigger more resentment, jealousy and hatred which will in turns make divorce more messy then it...

If he truly repent, then it's a matter of forget and forgive on your part, assuming it's within your nature and character. if it's going to be at the back of your head and will spring up readily during arguments and fights as pent up grievances ... then you should think very hard. Can you truly...

Its about time you come to terms you are merely his sex tool. What they call a FB, friend with benefit .

Was reading an article and decided to share. Do most have the same concurrence ? SINGAPORE: Every decade, the unveiling of the latest Singapore Population Census data holds some delicious morsels of information of who we are as a nation. The latest 2020 iteration surveyed 150,000 households...

Thank you for the contribution, a truly needed breathe of positivity in a mostly darkened vibes forum. It almost sounds like a extract of a counselling textbook. Perfectly articulated . In many real lives, mutuality has always been the biggest hurdle. :);)

sorry to hear that, so your kid custody is with your wife? Fret no more my friend. everything happen for a reason. i wish you best in your second half of your life.

This is really subjective, what was the mutual agreement and understanding during the "break". - cooling off period where a couple remains in a committed relationship but cooling off to sort out their thoughts and their future respectively. - cooling off period where a couple can open their...