Recent content by beaverjuice

Depends on what "giving each other a break" means to him. In my mind, it is so that one can reflect on whether the relationship is worth salvaging. Bottomline, there is still unfinished business. And i don't think it is right to go find a comfort woman or man in the meantime. It does not...

If sleeping on his side and your wearing earplugs doesn't help alleviate the problem then getting his sinus (is that a thing?) removed may help.

Top of my mind, this is an unusual arrangement albeit a temporary one. Wouldn't a husband want to spend more time with the wife? Anyhoo, is he the only son in his family and what are the living arrangements once you guys move into your matrimonial home? I guess the elephant in the room is...

One can either be the right partner or the wrong partner for your SO. If you have done everything right and things are still so wrong then she is obviously the wrong partner for you. By your own account, you have done everything right and yet things are not working out. Staying the course for...

You're saying that your husband changed after marriage? Became cavalier towards the relationship whereas before marriage he was all into you?

That's the cookie cutter approach in Singapore - PSLE, O-levels, A-Levels/Poly, Uni ....then career, HDB appln, ROM .... it's a conveyor belt system .... Maybe if you meet a non-Singaporean guy, the story might be different, just saying .... We need to change our approach to courtship and...

Dear TS, A month before or a month into marriage when you found out about his affair? You alluded to hurdles before marriage, what happened or what were they? Wishing you well Unker BJ

So this fella whom you just met, over a few weeks is blowing hot and cold - and he says he has some issues to sort out? This relationship is unevenly keeled and the balance of power rests in his hands since you desire him more than he has or feels the same way of you. If a woman disappears...

You want someone to validate you as a woman, yes? The thrill of being "chased" and "wanted". That "quickening" or 快感 that you can't get from your husband correct? Or is this about revenge and getting back at the hubby? Have you considered the hurt of those around you apart from your husband...

Regardless, annulment does not change the fact that the fiance was married before and worse still fiance chose to conceal this from TS. Makes one wonder if there are other worms in the can if one digs further into the past .... Since TS wondered if her fiance cheated on his wife with her -...

I think that's a natural physiological response bah, you should be thankful that he finds you sexually appealing. When you are in your 50's or 60's you might wish that he can still get it up lor :(

There is no shame in disclosing the truth (ie you're a divorcee) from the onset. Especially since you never know if the relationship could lead to something more serious eg marriage down the road. If you can't be honest from the onset, it could lead to the same predicament that TS is now under...

"Revenge is a dish best served cold" but i don't mean it in a Machiavellian way :p The best revenge is by living better and taking care of yourself instead of dwelling on the past

On the flip side, we shouldn't underestimate how some kids can be resilient despite a disfunctional family unit (divorced parents or separated/living under the same roof as the case may be). When we were young, my dad had an affair but my mom stayed because of us. I didn't think we grew up...

To heal you need to forgive - regardless as to whether you want this marriage or not.