{"id":68929,"date":"2019-12-09T09:05:59","date_gmt":"2019-12-09T01:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=68929"},"modified":"2021-05-11T14:13:27","modified_gmt":"2021-05-11T06:13:27","slug":"worst-reasons-to-get-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2019\/12\/worst-reasons-to-get-married\/","title":{"rendered":"10 of the Worst Reasons to Get Married"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>These 10 worst reasons to get married should sound warning bells instead of wedding bells.<\/i><\/p><p><b class=\"special\">G<\/b>etting married is a huge decision, and you should be sure you\u2019re making it for the right reasons: You\u2019re deeply in love, you mutually respect each other, you\u2019re committed to and work hard at your relationship, you want the same things out of life, you understand and know each other well. <\/p><p>Unfortunately, many couples rush into marriage for all the wrong reasons. If you\u2019re planning a wedding because of one of these terrible reasons, <i>don\u2019t<\/i>.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p><b><b>1. You\u2019ve been dating for a long time and it\u2019s the next logical step.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>You\u2019ve been dating your secondary school sweetheart for almost a decade, and after moving in together, you feel that you should move on to the next step. Just because you\u2019ve been together a long time, it doesn\u2019t mean that you should be together forever.  Longevity doesn\u2019t guarantee a successful marriage. Make sure you\u2019re not sliding into marriage just because you think, \u201cIt\u2019s about time.\u201d<\/p><p><b><b>2. He or she is a \u201cgood catch\u201d.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Your boyfriend is what they call \u201chusband material\u201d, and your family and friends all love him. He ticks most of your boxes when it comes to what you\u2019re looking for in a partner, but you just don\u2019t feel attracted to him romantically, nor do you feel convinced that he\u2019s right for you. Everyone tells you it would be crazy to pass such a great guy up, but if you don\u2019t truly love him, it would be crazier to marry him.<\/p><p><b><b>3. You hit your magic number.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>It\u2019s only natural of us to have a plan for our lives. But while you might plan to meet Mr. Right by a certain age so you can have three children by the time you\u2019re 35, life often doesn\u2019t go according to plan. Don\u2019t rush into marriage just because you\u2019ve reached your magic number and you thought you would be married by now. The right person is worth waiting for. After all, you\u2019ll be spending the rest of your lives together.<\/p><div style=\"width:100%;height:0;padding-bottom:83%;position:relative;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/Kg2tFStNdUsOmxv2GC\" width=\"100%\" height=\"100%\" style=\"position:absolute\" frameBorder=\"0\" class=\"giphy-embed\" allowFullScreen><\/iframe><\/div><p>&nbsp;<\/p><p><b><b>4. You think marriage will solve your relationship problems.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Unfortunately, the truth is that marriage will likely magnify those problems. Couples might try to make a big show of commitment because of trust issues after an affair, or think that fights and communication problems will magically disappear in marriage, but they\u2019re wrong. You can\u2019t fix a broken relationship by getting married. Fix your relationship, then see if you\u2019re ready for marriage.<\/p><p><b><b>5. You didn\u2019t want to hurt him or her by saying no.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>If you can\u2019t give someone a resounding \u201cYES!\u201d when he&#8217;s on bended knee, then you shouldn\u2019t say yes at all. Don\u2019t agree to marriage just because you\u2019re afraid of letting down your partner or even his family. You\u2019ll hurt him more when your marriage doesn\u2019t satisfy you and you\u2019re both unhappy.<\/p><p><b><b>6. You want someone to take care of you.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>While all parents want their children to enter a financially stable marriage, that doesn\u2019t mean you should marry someone for their money, their success, or their security. Marriages with one partner significantly wealthier or more experienced in life  could be a result of the other partner\u2019s desire for someone to provide emotional support, a home, and financial stability, and generally take care of life responsibilities. <\/p><div style=\"width:100%;height:0;padding-bottom:56%;position:relative;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/giphy.com\/embed\/fvdshfFCt8Fwc\" width=\"100%\" height=\"100%\" style=\"position:absolute\" frameBorder=\"0\" class=\"giphy-embed\" allowFullScreen><\/iframe><\/div><p>&nbsp;<\/p><p><b><b>7.You\u2019re afraid of being alone.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Some people want a lifelong partner because they\u2019re lonely or feel empty inside. You need to be at peace with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. You can\u2019t expect someone to fulfil all of your emotional needs or to \u201csave\u201d you. Contrary to Jerry Maguire\u2019s famous line, no one can complete you.<\/p><p><b><b>8. You think your partner will change after marriage.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Marriage isn\u2019t a cure all, and it will not get rid of all of the bad habits and issues that you dislike about your partner. If you\u2019re expecting marriage to turn an abusive partner into a gentleman, or an uncaring one into a good wife, you\u2019re going to be disappointed. Don\u2019t think of marriage as a project where you can mould and change your partner to your liking, but seriously consider whether you two are compatible before committing to a lifelong partnership.<\/p><p><b><b>9. You want to be independent of your family.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>You might come from a dysfunctional family, and you see marriage as your way out. You can\u2019t wait to start a family of your own, and you swear it will be nothing like the one you came from. While it\u2019s great to want to break the cycle of family dysfunction, it shouldn\u2019t be the sole reason you get married. It wouldn\u2019t be fair to your partner or your future children if you rush into marriage with someone just to escape your own family or to get out of their control.<\/p><p><b><b>10. You\u2019re worried you can\u2019t do better.<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>The person you\u2019re dating right now might be the best candidate you\u2019ve dated so far, and you\u2019re worried it\u2019s not going to get any better than this. But if you don\u2019t truly love your partner, have mutual respect for each other, or share common life goals, don\u2019t settle. Entering marriage with the idea that there just might be someone out there better for you is a recipe for a broken commitment.<\/p><p>Take a good hard look at your relationship and ask yourself, do any of these worst reasons for getting married apply to you? As marriage counsellor Marie Hartwell-Walker says in her article \u201c5 Reasons Not to Marry the One You Love\u201d, a successful marriage \u201crequires a union of two complete and whole adults who love each other deeply, unselfishly, and respectfully and who share a commitment to keep their wedding vows. Only then can a bond be created that withstands life\u2019s challenges and deepens over time.\u201d A successful marriage can be one of the most fulfilling and happy relationships in your life, if you&#8217;re entering it for the right reasons. <\/p><hr \/><p><i>Credits: Feature image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2019\/09\/faroe-islands-pre-wedding-photography-emily-jun-he\/\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" target=\"_blank\">Emily and Jun He&#8217;s Wild and Breathtaking Pre-Wedding Adventure in Faroe Islands<\/a> by Synchronal Photography<\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>These 10 worst reasons to get married should sound warning bells instead of wedding bells.Getting married is a huge decision, and you should be sure you\u2019re making it for the&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":68938,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"yasr_overall_rating":0,"yasr_post_is_review":"","yasr_auto_insert_disabled":"","yasr_review_type":"Product","footnotes":""},"categories":[2341],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-68929","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v24.6 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>10 of the Worst Reasons to Get Married - SingaporeBrides<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Marriage is a huge decision, and you should be sure it&#039;s the right one. 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