{"id":6082,"date":"2013-03-18T09:05:46","date_gmt":"2013-03-18T01:05:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=6082"},"modified":"2021-05-06T16:15:25","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T08:15:25","slug":"taming-your-bridezilla","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2013\/03\/taming-your-bridezilla\/","title":{"rendered":"Taming Your Bridezilla"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>Things can get a little overboard when it comes to brides and their weddings. Fu Jinming shows you how to manage your bride and her nuptial obsessions \u2013 while preserving your own sanity.<\/i><\/p><p><b class=\"special\">T<\/b>here she is, stepping out of the fitting room, looking resplendent in the white gown that will grace the biggest day of both your lives. She does a little twirl for you. You smile lovingly. She smiles back. Then she catches herself in the full-length mirror, and her face collapses.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p>You\u2019ve seen that frown before. It\u2019s subtle, but you know what follows it. And before you could say: \u201cYou\u2019re the most beautiful woman I\u2019ve ever seen,\u201d \u2013 which for your sake, she\u2019d better be \u2013 she turns to the gown designer and asks her why the hemline isn\u2019t at the height they\u2019ve agreed on at the last fitting. Why are there sequins when none were asked for? The lace? All wrong too.<\/p><p>\u201cDidn\u2019t you take notes the last time?\u201d your bride-to-be asks, eyebrow raised and sarcasm stirred. \u201cI can\u2019t believe we\u2019re still getting it wrong at this stage. We\u2019re barely two months to the wed\u2026\u201d<\/p><p>As you shuffle your feet and contemplate entering the fray, the atmosphere turns into artic frost. You try to diffuse the situation by complimenting the gown\u2019s amazing fit. But like the police arriving in a Jackie Chan flick, it\u2019s all too little, too late.<\/p><p>Behold the Bridezilla. A woman you love with all your heart, and yet, the same one who\u2019ll strike fear and agony in everyone who\u2019s ever had the misfortune to dabble in her wedding plans.<\/p><p>Because for a wedding made for the heavens, she will settle for nothing less.<\/p><p>The banquet hall must have a life-sized ice sculpture of her Shih Tzu. The cake must be specially tiered and colour-coded. The bridesmaids\u2019 dresses must have the same shade of lemony mint (you don\u2019t even know what colour that is). And her gown must be the exact same one she\u2019s been dreaming about since she was eight, down to the very last thread.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/bridezilla.jpg\" alt=\"bridezilla\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/101399920@N05\/23215715233\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Feature image<\/a> by Norbert Pete licensed under <a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc\/2.0\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CC BY-NC 2.0<\/a> <\/i><\/p><\/i><p>Oh, and you\u2019d have to go on a diet with her.<\/p><p>Make no mistake my gentle grooms, it\u2019s a side of your beloved you\u2019ve never seen before. That sweet, accommodating angel you\u2019ve been dating transgresses into a wicked white witch the moment you pop the question, and she sets the date along with your fate.<\/p><p>And for good reason.<\/p><p>Women are meticulous by nature. Most work best at a frenetic pace, and are natural-born organisers. They see far into the stars, knowing how they\u2019d want something done even before they know what that something was.<\/p><p>They are also emotionally driven. If life\u2019s a roller-coaster ride, then its ups and downs are amplified two-folds in a woman\u2019s mind. Your every mis-step, three-folds.<\/p><p>It also doesn\u2019t help that wedding planning is a time-consuming, mind-boggling, hair-tearing affair. Her impatient nature dictates that she starts the ball rolling first. And her multi-tasking tendencies will guarantee that she obsess over all the tiniest details \u2013 ALL at once.<\/p><p>So where does that leave us cave folk? We can either lose ourselves in her private highway to Hell, or we can take some control and keep her from losing herself \u2013 and our sanity.<\/p><p>After all, nobody wants to help a mean-spirited, unreasonable bride. And by unfortunate association, her clueless groom.<\/p><p>But by heavens, you\u2019d need all the help you can get. So here are six things you can start with to rein your Bridezilla in.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/bridezilla-4.jpg\" alt=\"bridezilla 4\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2016\/05\/joy-bens-steampunk-wedding-nikoi-island\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Joy and Ben&#8217;s Steampunk Wedding on Nikoi Island<\/a> by Daniel Beh Photography<\/i><p><b><b>1. Be There with Her, For Her<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Show her that she\u2019s not alone. Be there when she needs you to be. Whether it\u2019s for a gown fitting, a meeting with the hotel wedding coordinator, a session to choose the flowers and tablecloths to match, or one to sample the wedding cake you\u2019ll probably never have time during the banquet to eat, plan your schedule around hers.<\/p><p>You need to show her that you care about this wedding as much as she does. And nothing says \u201cthis is the most important part of our lives\u201d than being physically with her as she makes the toughest decisions of her big day.<\/p><p><b><b>2. Make Yourself Useful<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Let\u2019s face it: Women make better party planners. They can organise your wedding down to the last napkin. But that doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t help to carry some of the load.<\/p><p>Offer to take over some tasks, no matter how menial. It may be confirming the shoot dates with the wedding photographer, emailing the hotel coordinator to set the time and date of your next meeting, or simply writing the invites. She\u2019ll appreciate the help and the effort. And hey, it\u2019s your wedding too.<\/p><p><b><b>3. Take Her Mind Someplace Else<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Wedding planning is stressful. And stress can turn even the cutest little lamb into a teething monster. To stay her inner ogre, take her mind off the wedding with little surprises.<\/p><p>Take her out after a fitting for an unplanned treat at a romantic restaurant. Or flowers to finish off a pre-wedding photography session. Or better yet, whisk her off unannounced on a short holiday right after the food tasting at your banquet venue. Use your imagination.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/bridezilla-2.jpg\" alt=\"bridezilla 2\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2015\/12\/shihui-yens-glit\u2026-hotel-singapore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Yen and Shihui&#8217;s Glittery Vintage Wedding at Raffles Hotel Singapore<\/a> by Axioo Photography<\/i><p><b><b>4. Lighten the Moment<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Who says wedding planning has to be a serious and dour affair? Turn your chores into something fun and enjoyable. One that\u2019ll take the dreariness out of the errand, and make her laugh.<\/p><p>Do a little dance for her in your suit when it\u2019s your turn to do the fitting. Ask to try out the smoke machine at your wedding rehearsal to \u2018Smoke on the Water\u2019. Or start singing in the middle of your photo shoot. Silliness cures everything. Just ask Dr. Seuss.<\/p><p><b><b>5. Take a Deep Breath<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>One angry cook is enough to spoil the broth. Don\u2019t add to the fire by letting your temper fly, either at the situation or your bride-to-be.<\/p><p>Whenever you feel your fianc\u00e9e\u2019s being unreasonable, calm down. Let her finish her piece of the argument, either with you or with a staff member, then step in to politely ask for both of you to be excused for a few minutes.<\/p><p>Then softly ask your bride what the problem is, and how you can help. If you feel she is still emotionally aggressive, offer to speak to the staff member involved on her behalf. Your job here is to diffuse the situation as peaceably as possible, not to make matters worse by raising the heat.<\/p><p><b><b>6. Appease her Bridesmaids<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>More often than not, it\u2019s her bridesmaids who get the brunt of the Bridezilla abuse. To assuage them, ask them all out for a nice meal. Chances are, they\u2019d want to lament about how your bride has been demanding, and downright unreasonable at times.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t get defensive. First, lend them your ears. Then explain why your bride is behaving the way she is. Apologise to them for the trauma she may have caused. And promise them that you\u2019ll try your darnedest to calm your lady, so she doesn\u2019t turn into a big gown-stomping, bridesmaid-chomping monster.<\/p><p>Getting on their good sides will ease their unhappiness a little, and motivate them to go on helping your bride. It assures them that at least one half of the couple still has his head on.<\/p><p>And who knows, they might even be kinder to you come the customary \u2018gatecrashing\u2019 on your big day.<\/p><hr \/><p><i>Credits: Feature image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2016\/03\/pre-wedding-photoshoot-in-morrocco\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Darren and Sophia&#8217;s Breathtaking Prewedding Photoshoot in Morocco<\/a> by AndroidsinBoots.<\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Things can get a little overboard when it comes to brides and their weddings. 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