{"id":3761,"date":"2012-05-03T10:52:20","date_gmt":"2012-05-03T02:52:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=3761"},"modified":"2022-07-13T13:46:51","modified_gmt":"2022-07-13T05:46:51","slug":"how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2012\/05\/how-to-choose-your-bridesmaids\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Choose Your Bridesmaids"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>Ever heard of the saying \u201cBehind every successful man lies a great woman\u201d? Well, SingaporeBrides has our own version. We say, \u201cBehind every bride lies a great bridesmaid \u2013 or five\u201d. <\/i><\/p><p><b class=\"special\">Y<\/b>ou know your bridesmaids have a more important responsibility than fending off your groom and his boys during the gate-crashing and looking pretty by your side. If you\u2019ve been a bridesmaid yourself before, you know they will be your support system, your aid in the wedding planning and have your back from the very beginning to the end. Which is why it\u2019s exceptionally vital that you find the one (or many more) women who\u2019d be perfect for the responsibilities of a bridesmaid to ensure you get all the help and support you need to make your wedding a successful one.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p>The question is, how would you know who these individuals are and how do you identify them from the others on your very long bridesmaids-wannabe list? SingaporeBrides has a simple solution for you: a six-step guide to picking your bridesmaids. By the time you finish reading it, you&#8217;ll be picking out bridesmaids like you were born to do so.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/bali-wedding-10.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><i class=\"special\">Image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2020\/01\/bali-wedding-joymarie-mackenzie\/\">Joymarie and Mackenzie&#8217;s Fun and Tropical Bali Wedding<\/a> by Apel Photography<\/i><p><b><b>1. Time is On Your Side<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>One minute you\u2019re engaged and showing off your ring to your family, and the next you\u2019re punching in the numbers to your BFF\u2019s mobile to ask if she\u2019ll be one of your bridesmaids. That might seem like the best idea at that moment, but it really is a very bad one. Hang up and let us tell you why.<\/p><p>Deciding who\u2019ll be your bridesmaids is just as important and tricky as deciding your guest list and seating plan. To begin with, how many bridesmaids you have depends on how big your wedding is. Don\u2019t forget, you have more than just your BFFs to consider for the role of bridesmaid \u2013 there are women in your family that you have to consider as well.<\/p><p>That\u2019s why you need to be calm-headed and rational enough to look at your circle of friends and family to see who is cut out for the work of a bridesmaid. So take your time and wait for that bubble of excitement to settle down before making any decisions. If you\u2019re asked about your bridesmaids and who they\u2019ll be, let them know that in all the engagement excitement, you haven\u2019t had the time to think of it yet.<\/p><p><b><b>2. Who\u2019s Bridesmaid Material?<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>If you\u2019ve watched the movie <i>27 Dresses<\/i>, the first 10 minutes or so should give you a pretty good idea of the kind of bridesmaids you want to be surrounded by. I\u2019m referring to Katherine Heigl\u2019s character in the movie, of course. Ecstatic, responsible and even willing to hold the bride\u2019s skirts up while she tinkles away \u2013 these are some of the traits your bridesmaids should have.<\/p><p>Ideally, they should be someone whom you are close to and who are familiar with your temperament so they wouldn\u2019t bat an eyelid even if you transformed into the legendary bridezilla in front of them. You should be able to completely rely and lean on your bridesmaids and draw on their strength when things become too much for you anytime between now and the wedding.<\/p><p>That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important for the women you\u2019re about to pick as bridesmaids to possess some, if not all of these qualities. When all else fails around them, you can count on them to be standing fast and strong.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Tirtha-Uluwatu-Bali-David-Alison-16.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><i class=\"special\">Image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2020\/01\/tirtha-uluwatu-bali-gusmank-photography-david-alison\/\">Alison and David&#8217;s Magical and Intimate Wedding at Tirtha Uluwatu Bali<\/a> by Gusmank Photography<\/i><p><b><b>3. Stand Firm<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>When news of your upcoming nuptials goes around, all of a sudden you\u2019ll be hearing from friends and distant relatives whom you haven\u2019t spoke with in years. And once the congratulations have been conveyed, you\u2019ll be hearing talk about some or all of them expecting to be asked \u201cWill you be my bridesmaid?\u201d.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t let this group of people arm twist you into making them bridesmaids against your wishes, even if relatives pull out the family card. You need to be completely comfortable and familiar with your bridesmaids for this relationship to work, so don\u2019t force yourself to make a distant cousin of yours one of your bridesmaids just to please your family.<\/p><p>Let them know that while you\u2019d be happy to share your day with them, you already have enough bridesmaids. Offer them an alternative and inform them that while it is unfortunate they can\u2019t be your bridesmaids, there is another area, such as manning the reception table, that you\u2019d like them to help you out with.<\/p><p><b><b>4. Group Dynamics<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Picking the right individuals to be your bridesmaids is just the first step. The next step is to ensure these individuals are able to work well and get along with others. Otherwise, you\u2019ll be having catfights reminiscent of those you see on \u201cAmerica\u2019s Next Top Model\u201d.<\/p><p>That means you should never ask two feuding friends to be your bridesmaids, because that is just asking for trouble. You\u2019re essentially giving them an avenue (read: your wedding) to engage in a silent and destructive war or dish things out with one another. The same goes for relatives or ex-colleagues.<\/p><p>If your bridesmaids are made up of individuals from different stages of your life (secondary school <em>and <\/em>university friends), arrange luncheons or gatherings to give everyone an opportunity to get acquainted with on another. It\u2019d also be a good idea for you to assign each of them clear responsibilities to minimise any fighting over tasks.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Sofitel-Sentosa-Trixie-Steve-143.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><i class=\"special\">Image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2020\/03\/sofitel-sentosa-andri-tei-photography-trixie-steve\/\">Trixie and Steve&#8217;s Ethereal Wedding at Sofitel Singapore Sentosa Resort and Spa<\/a> by <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/featured\/andri-tei-photography\/\">Andri Tei Photography<\/a><\/i><p><b><b>5. More Than Just an Honour<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Being asked to be a bridesmaid is more than just an honour; it also comes with responsibilities. If you\u2019ve been one yourself, you\u2019d know how important a bridesmaid\u2019s role is in a wedding and during its planning process. You\u2019ll also know that sometimes, bridesmaids end up being busier and more stressed out than the bride herself, especially the Maid of Honour.<\/p><p><b><b>6. A bridesmaid\u2019s responsibility<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Don&#8217;t think for a second that your bridesmaids&#8217; tasks are limited to giving trusty advice during your dress fittings and on the colour of your flower bouquet; it is a list long enough to rival even your wedding to-do list. You need to be able to count on your girls to turn up at your dress fittings or bridal showers, speak to vendors and coordinate other wedding details. So be sure to pick the ones who are ready to shoulder those responsibilities to the very end.<\/p><p>In your search for your bridesmaids, you&#8217;ll meet some who awaits eagerly to be asked to be your bridesmaids and some, who when asked, end up saying &#8220;no&#8221;. When you do, don&#8217;t be too surprised. Don&#8217;t take their rejection too personally or hold it against them. They have their own lives too and they&#8217;re not obligated to put yours above theirs. Just be happy that they&#8217;re there at your wedding as guests.<\/p><hr\/><p><i>Credits: Featured image from <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2020\/04\/the-white-rabbit-bridelope-productions-hailey-clifford\/\">Hailey and Clifford&#8217;s Exquisite Wedding at The White Rabbit<\/a> by <a href=\"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/featured\/bridelope-productions\/\">Bridelope Productions<\/a><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ever heard of the saying \u201cBehind every successful man lies a great woman\u201d? Well, SingaporeBrides has our own version. 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