{"id":3083,"date":"2012-02-29T09:05:22","date_gmt":"2012-02-29T01:05:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=3083"},"modified":"2016-03-07T16:54:39","modified_gmt":"2016-03-07T08:54:39","slug":"oops-i-should-not-have-said-that","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2012\/02\/oops-i-should-not-have-said-that\/","title":{"rendered":"Oops! I should not have said that!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b class=\"special\">S<\/b>o your bestie has asked you to be the Maid of Honour. You\u2019re, well, honoured. But at the time, it means you have to stand up and deliver a heartfelt toast to the bride. So between planning that bachelorette party and going for bridesmaid dress fittings, you have got to write the perfect speech that will win her eternal gratitude. As if that\u2019s not enough, it\u2019s only too easy to trip up by saying the wrong things. To help you cope, SingaporeBrides lists what you simply shouldn\u2019t say.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p><b><b>#1: Sad, sob stories<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Weddings are joyous events. It\u2019s also the start of a brand new beginning for the bridal couple. So avoid bringing up sad and depressing topics like medical illnesses and failed marriages. We all know that it\u2019s not a picture-perfect world out there. But there\u2019s no use harping on such negative stuff. Doing so will only lead to awkwardly silent moments during your speech. We can guarantee those wedding guests won\u2019t know whether to shed a sad tear or two, or clap encouragingly when you\u2019re done.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t follow these bad examples!<\/p><ul><li><i>\u201cI\u2019ve been best pals with this lovely bride for 15 years. Through these years, I\u2019ve seen how she emerged from depression to find her one true love.\u201d<\/i><\/li><li><i>\u201cHey, we all know that half the marriages out there end in divorce. But hopefully, Jenny and John will make it last.\u201d<\/i><\/li><\/ul><p><b><b>#2: Low points in the bridal couple\u2019s relationship<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Most couples would have gone through many highs and lows on the long and winding road leading to the altar. It\u2019s likely that the bridal couple had to overcome challenges to be together. Which means they might have experienced plenty of heartache, pain and unhappiness to get to where they are today. However, there\u2019s no need to mention the low points in their relationship. And yes, there\u2019s also no need to bring up how she used to end up drunk because of those arguments.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t follow these bad examples!<\/p><ul><li><i>\u201cRemember how we used to go drinking whenever you and Mike quarrelled?\u201d<\/i><\/li><li><i>\u201cYou\u2019ve made your decision to marry Kenny, so I hope he won\u2019t make the same mistake he did that time. Watch him closely, and don\u2019t let him cheat again! But if he does, I\u2019ll be here for you \u2013 as always.\u201d<\/i><\/li><\/ul><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  title=\"I should not have said that!\" src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/Maidofhonour1-e1330426246366.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><p><b><b>#3: What the bride was like before she met the groom<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Remember: Your Maid of Honour speech should make the bride look good. Focus on the compliments \u2013 like how she\u2019s been a great friend to you. Skip private and less-flattering information like how she\u2019s always falling for the wrong guys (and sobbing on your shoulder when she falls out of relationships). Besides, the groom\u2019s parents will be there and you definitely should not embarrass her in front of them.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t follow these bad examples!<\/p><ul><li><i>\u201cI remember those lonely Christmases where Patricia would call me up, sobbing about how she would never find a guy!\u201d<\/i><\/li><li><i>\u201cJane has a tendency to fall for the those &#8216;bad boy&#8217; types, so I\u2019m glad she found the right one this time!\u201d<\/i><\/li><\/ul><p><b><b>#4: Taboo topics<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>A wedding is a harmonious event, so avoid such taboo topics that can easily divide or offend the guests. Sex, politics, religion and money are definite no-nos when it comes to wedding speeches. Whether it\u2019s the astonishing cost of the bridal couple\u2019s lavish wedding or how they had to almost employ child labour to get the wedding invites completed, it will come off sounding wrong \u2013 no matter how well meaning you are.<\/p><p>Don\u2019t follow these bad examples!<\/p><ul><li><i>\u201cJoe and Kelly have put in a lot of thought into this wedding! Isn\u2019t everything wonderful? Yes, they spent a cool $50,000!\u201d<\/i><\/li><li><i>\u201cJoanne and Ridhwan triumphed all odds to be together. You see, she\u2019s Catholic and he\u2019s Muslim.\u201d<\/i><\/li><\/ul><p>It\u2019s a great honour to be able to give a toast at your best friend\u2019s wedding. And pulling off that perfect toast is possible \u2013 it\u2019s all about sharing significant (and sweet) memories and sending well wishes her way. Here\u2019s a general rule of thumb: If you can\u2019t talk about it in front of your own mother, you probably shouldn\u2019t talk about it at all.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  title=\"I should not have said that!\" src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/Maidofhonour2-e1330426275325.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><p><b><b>5 useful tips to write that memorable Maid of Honour toast<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>1.<i> Start early:<\/i> As a Maid of Honour, you\u2019re the bride\u2019s right-hand woman. So you must be overwhelmed with duties like organising the morning gatecrash and sorting out the dress fitting dates. But don\u2019t leave your speech-writing till too late. Collect ideas, thoughts and anecdotes at least three to four weeks before the big day.<\/p><p>2. <i>Work from a template:<\/i> Don\u2019t just stare at a blank page and feel despondent because you\u2019re stuck even before you start. If you\u2019re not a natural or experienced writer, try finding maid of honour templates on the web. Good ones will consist of pointers like how long you\u2019ve known the bride and groom and a famous marriage quote or two. Then, adapt it to your needs by filling it up with your own anecdotes. This would make your task way easier and pleasurable.<\/p><p>3. <i>Be funny:<\/i> It helps to add humour to your speech to create a light-hearted mood at the wedding dinner. You can tell one or two tender, well-meaning jokes about the bride. Like how she used to drag you around town to shop for the perfect birthday present for the groom. But be very careful not to offend anyone or embarrass yourself with those jokes.<\/p><p>4. <i>Mention touching moments:<\/i> As a close friend of the couple, you can make the wedding guests go \u201cawww\u201d by bringing up loving, sentimental moments between the bride and groom. If you have been privy to the courtship details between your best friend and her man, now is the time to briefly mention it to showcase their devotion to each other.<\/p><p>5. <i>Practice:<\/i> Don\u2019t just write the speech and leave the folded note in your handbag. Stand up, and try delivering it in front of the mirror. This will help you to attain the right poise and confidence for that important evening. It would be even better if you can do it in front of a friend or your fellow bridesmaids and ask for opinions.<\/p><hr\/>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So your bestie has asked you to be the Maid of Honour. You\u2019re, well, honoured. 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