{"id":3060,"date":"2012-02-08T09:05:34","date_gmt":"2012-02-08T01:05:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=3060"},"modified":"2021-05-06T16:06:51","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T08:06:51","slug":"10-tips-on-how-to-stay-lovingly-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2012\/02\/10-tips-on-how-to-stay-lovingly-married\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Tips On How To Stay Lovingly Married"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b class=\"special\">N<\/b>ow that you\u2019ve said your vows, it\u2019s time to embark on the toughest life journey of all \u2013 marriage. And yes, that means being faithful to one partner, living with him under one roof, and embracing him (and his flaws!) till death do you part. But the happily-ever-after is not a myth, if you know how to navigate your marriage right, that is. SingaporeBrides lists 10 tips and tricks to staying married \u2013 forever.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p><b><b>#1: Realise that he\u2019s not Mr. Perfect<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>As a girl, you have probably wished for a modern-day Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet. But as a married woman, understand that there is a difference between fantasy and reality. Your husband is not \u2013 and never will be \u2013 Mr. Perfect. Every one of us has our flaws and weaknesses \u2013 and it\u2019s only going to get more apparent when you start living together. He can\u2019t be suave, sensitive and yet also be the same man who remembers to take out the trash every evening. So you\u2019ll be in for some squabbles if you expect the impossible. Instead, make a conscious effort to be more accepting of your husband \u2013 simply because you love the man he is.<\/p><p><b><b>#2: Talk about everything under the sun<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>So you used to chat on the phone for hours. That\u2019s definitely going to change after you\u2019ve walked down the aisle. In fact, it won\u2019t be long before the harsher realities of marriage set in. And it\u2019s only natural that both of you start talking more about bread-and-butter issues like household bills and running errands for the in-laws. Before such daily tedium overwhelms your marriage, make it a point to connect with each other regularly as individuals. Talk about your day or listen to him share his thoughts about that book he\u2019s been reading. Remember that your conversations shouldn\u2019t always be about the house, work, the in-laws or the children.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  title=\"Staying Lovingly Married\" src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/iStock_000018360417Small-e1328593685575.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><p><b><b>#3: Be generous<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>When you\u2019ve been together for a while, you might take your partner for granted without even realising it. But the key to a blissful marriage is to be generous to your spouse. It could be little courtesies like \u201cThanks for taking the kids to tuition tonight\u201d or supportive phrases like \u201cI know you can do it\u201d. Or it could be surprising him with a nice dinner every now and then. And you shouldn\u2019t need to wait till Valentine\u2019s Day to do that. Such sweet gestures will serve to build a stronger, more loving marriage.<\/p><p><b><b>#4: Compromise, but don\u2019t be calculative<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Compromises can go a long way when it comes to making a marriage last. Like how he washes the dishes while you mop the floor. Or how he cleans up the dog poo while you do the laundry. But fights can arise even with such neat arrangements. If, for instance, he piles the dishes in the sink for a tad longer while he takes a shower first, cut him some slack (read: don\u2019t start screaming about how inefficient he is). A long-lasting marriage is all about give and take. But at times, focus on the giving. If you know he\u2019s tired from a stressful day at work (while you\u2019ve been on leave), why not offer to do the dishes for a change? It\u2019s all about showing your appreciation for your partner.<\/p><p><b><b>#5: Fight fair<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>It\u2019s absolutely normal for a couple \u2013 married or otherwise \u2013 to bicker. The trick is to know how to argue effectively. For a start, never get physical (that means no plate-throwing, please). If there\u2019s something you\u2019re not happy about, attack the problem, never the person. Blaming your partner will not help matters. So avoid saying accusatory things like \u201cYou got us into this!\u201d Instead, target the problem at hand. Try scheduling a \u201ctime out\u201d when emotions run high. That way, you can resolve the conflict after calming down. And remember: You don\u2019t always have to win every single fight. Many happily married couples actually make a pact not to go to bed if they\u2019re still angry at each other.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  title=\"Staying Lovingly Married\" src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/iStock_000018902332Small-e1328593745468.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><p><b><b>#6: Have date nights<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Many married couples get so burdened by the responsibilities of work and home that they neglect to keep the romance alive. If this continues, you will start seeing each other more as partners than lovers. And when the daily grind gets overwhelming, it\u2019s only too easy for cracks to appear in the marriage. Consider scheduling date nights into your weekly routine. Commit to them no matter how busy you get. And remember that it\u2019s not about which swanky restaurant you go to \u2013 it\u2019s about spending quality time together.<\/p><p><b><b>#7: Keep your individuality<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Just because you\u2019re married doesn\u2019t mean you should live like conjoined twins. It is still important to maintain a strong sense of self. There\u2019s no need to do everything together. Take a closer look at the happy couples out there, and you might find that most continue to cultivate close friendships and lead active lives out of their marriages. When you have your own close friends and your own hobbies, you won\u2019t cling onto his ankles (or have him constantly depend on you). Most crucially, you won\u2019t ever feel that you\u2019re being \u201ctrapped\u201d within the confines of your marriage.<\/p><p><b><b>#8: Travel separately<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Chances are: You will also be hankering for some time apart from each other at some point in your marriage. So if you\u2019ve been dreaming of that spa holiday in Bali and he\u2019s looking forward to a backpacking trip through Indochina, you don\u2019t always have to compromise. Instead, why not travel separately? You can call those high-school girlfriends of yours, while he can go solo. And after weeks apart, you will realise that absence does make the heart grow fonder.<\/p><p><b><b>#9: Stay affectionate<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>As the years go by, you might shudder at how you used to indulge in Public Displays of Affection (PDA) on shopping mall escalators during your courtship days. But touch can still do wonders for your relationship \u2013 it can help the both of you achieve a deeper level of intimacy. So hold hands while you&#8217;re taking a walk or snuggle up to each other when you\u2019re watching prime-time television. Tender, loving actions like a supportive hand on his shoulder when he\u2019s rushing that work report on the computer can help to bring you closer.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  title=\"Staying Lovingly Married\" src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/iStock_000004989072Small-e1328593766462.jpg\" alt=\"\"  \/><p><b><b>#10: Grow together<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>One of the most beautiful things about marriage is that the both of you can grow old together. You will both change with time, through the highs and lows of life \u2013 whether it\u2019s celebrating a work promotion, welcoming the arrival of a new child, or coping with the loss of a parent. It\u2019s important to anticipate these life changes as a couple, and adapt accordingly. But more significantly, continue to create new experiences (pick up a new hobby, perhaps?) and build memories together. Growing as a couple can be the real secret to a happy and healthy marriage.<\/p><hr\/>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Now that you\u2019ve said your vows, it\u2019s time to embark on the toughest life journey of all \u2013 marriage. 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