{"id":2442,"date":"2011-09-29T10:45:54","date_gmt":"2011-09-29T02:45:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=2442"},"modified":"2016-03-08T15:25:39","modified_gmt":"2016-03-08T07:25:39","slug":"make-the-cut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2011\/09\/make-the-cut\/","title":{"rendered":"Make The Cut!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>A bursting-at-the-seams wedding guest list is more common than you think. A bridal couple is usually so excited to share their joy with everyone \u2013 and we mean everyone \u2013 that they just can\u2019t bear to take anyone\u2019s name off the list. But the more people you invite, the bigger your bill gets. SingaporeBrides lists some ways to trim your wedding guest list (hurt feelings not included).<\/i><\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><p><b><b>1. Create a B-list<\/strong><\/b><\/b><\/p><p>At this point, you must already have written down a long, long list of names; anybody you want to invite, write them down. Sit down with your fianc\u00e9 and go over them. First, sort all the names into simple categories \u2013 family, friends and colleagues. Next, start a B-list for each of the categories you\u2019ve created. A B-list includes names of all those who are NOT your closest and dearest, like that distant cousin you only meet at Chinese New Year reunion dinner, the primary school classmate you bumped into last week or the marketing manager colleague who works on Level 5. Oh, and Facebook friends you don\u2019t meet in person.<\/p><p>Be ruthless with this list. First, look for names you don\u2019t recognise \u2013 they\u2019re likely to be your parents\u2019 extras so politely ask if you can strike them off. Next, don\u2019t feel obliged to invite your bosses, business associates and colleagues. Even if you cut the whole department out, they should understand that you want to keep your celebration within the family and close friends. Then, weed out friends you have not seen or heard from in over a year. If you don\u2019t usually hang out with them, it\u2019s all right not to invite them to your wedding\u2026 even if they have invited you to theirs. If someone on your \u201cA\u201d list couldn\u2019t make it to the wedding, you can then send an invitation to the person at the top of your \u201cB\u201d list.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/02\/Kaleidoscope-Flower-Field-Hall-Wedding-At-Gardens-By-The-Bay-85.jpg\" alt=\"wedding guests; wedding party; wedding guest list\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2016\/02\/kaleidoscope-flower-field-hall-wedding-gardens-by-the-bay\/\">Constance and Jason&#8217;s Kaleidoscope Flower Field Hall Wedding At Gardens by the Bay<\/a> by Samuel Goh Photography<\/i><p><b><b>2. Leave the kiddos at home<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>These days, it\u2019s not unusual to have <a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2011\/01\/not-for-the-under-aged\/\">adults-only receptions<\/a>. It could be because you\u2019re planning a particular theme for your wedding (like \u201cCasino Royale\u201d) that\u2019s not exactly kid-friendly. Or it could simply be because you want to keep the numbers small. No matter what, leaving the kids out can trim a wedding guest list (and your budget) by a fair bit.<\/p><p>But do establish some guidelines (like \u201cOnly for those 16 and above\u201d) and stick to them. For one, you don\u2019t want to appear rude by excluding some, but not others. Also try to be fair. If a certain guest makes a fuss and insists that her two children tag along, explain that you can\u2019t make exceptions because that would be unfair to other guests. Suggest that she hire a babysitter for the night but say it in a nice and positive manner, such as, \u201cPerhaps you can ask your reliable cousin to help watch the kids? Then you can let your hair down and have fun at the wedding!\u201d<\/p><p><b><b>3. Strike out the plus-ones<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>It\u2019s always a nice gesture to invite single guests with a &#8220;plus-one&#8221;. After all, who likes to attend a wedding on their own \u2013 and listen to tales of how other couples met and fell in love? But allowing for plus-ones will definitely balloon your wedding guest list. So do consider carefully if your budget allows for this. If not, it\u2019s actually not required.<\/p><p>Simply address your guest by name on the <a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2011\/08\/before-printing-your-wedding-invites\/\">invitation card<\/a>. Most people know that if there is no mention of \u201cand guest\u201d, the bridal couple is not catering for plus-ones. But you can always seat singles together so that they can mingle and talk. There is just one exception to this rule though \u2013 it would be the polite thing to do to invite your guests&#8217; significant others and partners of those in long-term relationships.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Kylie-and-Patricks-Intimate-Wedding-at-Skyve-Wine-Bistro-3.jpg\" alt=\"wedding guests; weddding party; wedding guest list; skyve wine bistro\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2015\/05\/weddings-in-pictures-kylie-and-patricks-intimate-wedding-at-skyve-wine-bistro\/\">Kylie and Patrick&#8217;s Intimate Wedding at Skyve Wine Bistro<\/a> by Pixioo Photography<\/i><p><b><b>4. Be gracious<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Not getting a wedding invitation may be hurtful to some, so do be tactful and diplomatic about it. Instead of avoiding the issue and not saying a word, we suggest that you make the effort to apologise in person or via a phone call (saying sorry over SMS or MSN reeks of insincerity, so avoid that). Be straightforward and explain that you can\u2019t invite as many people as you would like because it\u2019s going to be a small gathering. That was just what art director Jeannie Neo and her husband, Ricky, did when they were planning their April 2011 wedding.<\/p><p>The happy couple faced a ballooning guest list but knew they couldn\u2019t invite everybody. Jeannie explains: \u201cThere were 200 guests on my original guest list, but our wedding was to be held at a small and intimate venue, Chalk at Old School. The restaurant sits 150 people comfortably, so we had to shave 50 people off our list. In the end, we only invited some of our closest family and friends and colleagues. I felt bad that I couldn\u2019t invite some people who expected to come so I went to their cubicles in the office or met up with them to apologise in person. Fortunately, most were truly understanding.\u201d<\/p><p><b><b>5. Dump the guilt!<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>It would be an understatement to say that it\u2019s difficult to trim a wedding guest list to perfection. Even as you use a marker to strike names off, you would have to struggle with feelings of conflict and guilt. You\u2019re wondering things like \u201cIsn\u2019t it bad to leave Granduncle Lee out?\u201d and worrying about how your primary school friend Sally would be upset that she\u2019s not invited (because she invited you to her wedding!). There\u2019s just so much guilt involved in the entire operation.<\/p><p>But now that you\u2019ve done the necessary cuts, stop feeling bad! It\u2019s your Big Day after all \u2013 you should be able to choose who you want to celebrate it with. There is one way you can assuage that guilt, though. Consider holding a separate celebration for those who weren\u2019t invited. By this, we don\u2019t mean everyone on your \u201cB\u201d list. Instead, we mean categories of people, like all the colleagues in your department. After explaining and apologising that you can\u2019t invite all of them to your actual wedding, offer to treat them to a celebratory lunch at the team\u2019s favourite restaurant. In other words, just show that you care.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/Andre-and-Bibis-Romantic-Rooftop-Wedding-in-Taiwan-520-Library-24.jpg\" alt=\"wedding guest; wedding party; wedding gues list; 520 library photography\" \/><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2016\/01\/weddings-pictures-andre-bibis-romantic-rooftop-wedding-taiwan\/\">Andre and Bibi&#8217;s Romantic Rooftop Wedding in Taiwan<\/a> by 520 Library<\/i><p><b><b>HOT TIP!<\/b><\/b><\/p><p><b><b>Trim the list together<\/b><\/b><\/p><p>Don\u2019t do the dirty job alone. This is the time to join hands and face up to the terrible task as a couple. Sit down and discuss who to strike off the guest list. Doing it together ensures that either party won\u2019t accidentally strike out an important guest. It also shows that you respect and understand each other\u2019s opinion. You also have to answer to both sets of parents \u2013 who may even be <a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2011\/08\/dealing-with-wedding-budget-woes\/\">chipping in<\/a> for the wedding dinner \u2013 so sort out the names with your other half and update them accordingly. Remember \u2013 it\u2019s all about give and take.<\/p><p><i>Credits: Feature Image from <a href=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2016\/01\/shangri-la-hotel-singapore-wedding-germaine-mitchell\/\">Germaine and Mitchell\u2019s Glamorous Wedding at Shangri-La Hotel, Singapore<\/a> by Antelope Studios.<\/i><\/p><hr \/>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A bursting-at-the-seams wedding guest list is more common than you think. 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