{"id":18755,"date":"2015-06-29T09:05:14","date_gmt":"2015-06-29T01:05:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/?p=18755"},"modified":"2021-05-06T16:35:32","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T08:35:32","slug":"surprising-facts-about-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/2015\/06\/surprising-facts-about-men\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Surprising Facts About Men"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>There are a lot of facts aboutmen that women know. But there are many more that remain a mystery to womankind. Fu Jinming sheds light on some of the things men wish women knew about them.<\/i><\/p><p><b class=\"special\">R<\/b>eading a guy is like reading an open book. We\u2019re straightforward, clear and emotionally stable.<\/p><p>Well, most of us are anyway \u2013 most of the time.<\/p><p>Yet there are some things that women will find surprising about men. Like the fact that, despite traditional gender conventions \u2013 and the self-assured fa\u00e7ade we erect in front of our egos \u2013 we can be insecure at times, lonely at others.<\/p><p>Then there are the times we crave compliments, even though we act like they don\u2019t matter. Or how we\u2019re just as self-conscious and dissatisfied with our bodies as women are with theirs.<\/p><p>Because the truth is, we\u2019re only human. Nature may have intended for us to be the macho hunter born to protect his brood. But we\u2019re still the same wide-eyed, fragile children deep inside. And it\u2019s only in the nurturing company of our chosen partners that we let our emotional guards down, which may surprise the very same people who are there to catch us, often when they least expect it.<\/p><p>Then there\u2019s the stuff that may not be as surprising. Like how when we say we\u2019re thinking of nothing, we really are.<\/p><p>So to set the record straight here are 7 things about men that women may not know about.<\/p><div class=\"banner\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">OA_show(5);<\/script><\/div><h3>1. We want attention<\/h3><p>Women aren\u2019t the only ones who need to be shown an interest in. Men too need to be showered with attention every now and then. The best thing is, it\u2019s easier with us.<\/p><p>For male attention has less to do with looking into his eyes and asking him if he\u2019d like a hug, and more with simply being close to him. You don\u2019t even need to say anything. You can help him with whatever task he\u2019s performing. Or to organise his things for him. Or to simply be patient if he\u2019s going through a stressful time.<\/p><p>It doesn\u2019t hurt to throw in a few compliments every now and then too. Tell him he looks dashing. Tell him he\u2019s smart. Tell him you\u2019re glad you\u2019re together with him. He may not believe it all, but it\u2019ll put a smile on his face. He\u2019ll appreciate the effort, and love you even more for it.<\/p><h3>2. We can be lonely<\/h3><p>Contrary to the lone wolf image, men are social creatures. Even the most reserved of introverts will take to commenting on their friends\u2019 Facebook posts \u2013 just to reaffirm their existence.<\/p><p>Loneliness is sometimes defined as the feeling we get when we want to connect with someone who isn\u2019t there to be connected with. And as if that\u2019s not sensitive-new-age-guy enough, we can be in a relationship and still feel lonely, particularly if we feel a sense of disconnect with our other half.<\/p><p>The antidote? Spend more time together. Go to his silly ball games. Meet him for dinner after work. Or just simply sit next to him when he\u2019s reading or working. And hold his hand.<\/p><h3>3. We like to &#8220;talk&#8221; about our feelings<\/h3><p>Really, we do. Just not in the same way as the ladies. Social conventions dictate that men stay faithful to the alpha archetype \u2013 strong, silent, and not given to emotional self-indulgences. Yakking on about our inner thoughts is not exactly our idea of an evening well spent.<\/p><p>But we\u2019ve been talking about our feelings all this time. Except we don\u2019t do it in words. You see, men don\u2019t TALK. We DO. That is, we\u2019re subconsciously hardwired to SHOW you how we feel.<\/p><p>That\u2019s why when we want to say \u201cSorry,\u201d we say it with a bouquet of flowers. When we want to share the beautiful sunset with you, we snap a photo and text it to you. When we stop on our way to the kitchen to give you a peck on the cheek, we\u2019re telling you that you mean the world to us. All of which, incidentally, takes less time than talking. Just saying.<\/p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\"  src=\"http:\/\/singaporebrides.com\/articles\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/14642522278_97435ce876_z_s.jpg\" alt=\"insecure young man\"><i class=\"special\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/leandromocca\/14642522278\/\">Image<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-nd\/2.0\/\">cc licensed ( BY NC ND )<\/a> flickr photo by JD Hancock<\/i><h3>4. We feel insecure<\/h3><p>Here\u2019s the truth: we\u2019re afraid of the same things women are. We\u2019re insecure about our place, not just at work, but at home. We\u2019re secretly vulnerable about our role as &#8220;the man of the house&#8221;, and are constantly worrying if we are performing our roles right.<\/p><p>We hate to admit it, but we\u2019d like nothing more to be assured every now and then that we\u2019re doing ok. That we\u2019re the providers (we think) we are. And that we\u2019re appreciated by the most important woman in our lives.<\/p><p>Yup, we\u2019re all big, egotistical babies.<\/p><h3>5. We like you to like our presents<\/h3><p>It may seem like an obvious point to make. After all, whoever sets out to buy a present to disappoint? Yet, men are always seen as nonchalant gift shoppers at best, and downright thoughtless at worst.<\/p><p>The truth is, we\u2019re all secretly anxious to hear what you think of the present we got you. Not because we\u2019re needy \u2013 or that we want you to know we went through Hell and high water to get that limited-edition handbag \u2013 but because we care. We care about the joy our gift may give you. We care about having made a mark in your life, no matter how superficial.<\/p><p>But mostly, we just care about putting a smile on your face.<\/p><h3>6. We like to see you eat<\/h3><p>It sounds perverse, but men like to see the woman they love love the food they eat. It may seem counterintuitive to our perceived preference for dainty eaters and elegant figures. While the latter may sometimes be true, the former isn\u2019t always.<\/p><p>Perhaps it\u2019s the awkwardness we feel whenever we bring on the bangers and mash, and you order a salad. Particularly if you\u2019re out on your first date together. We\u2019ll be stuffing our face like a hungry gorilla while you\u2019ll be nibbling like a (very pretty) hummingbird.<\/p><p>Or it may be our primeval instinct to provide \u2013 we\u2019re hardwired to want our women to be well-fed. So go ahead, please your man: ask for dessert.<\/p><h3>7. We can think of nothing<\/h3><p>Comedian Russell Peters has said it. Marriage speaker Mark Gungor has said it. Now, science has proven it: in a report published a few years back, the University of Pennsylvania has found that men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing and still breathe.<\/p><p>This is due in part to the way men\u2019s brains are wired. While women\u2019s thoughts are often connected to each other, men\u2019s ones are often compartmentalised, separate from one another like boxes. And our favourite box by far is the &#8220;nothing&#8221; box. It\u2019s the one we go to whenever we\u2019re stressed or need a time-out. And it\u2019s the one that drives women nuts.<\/p><p>If anything, women should learn to see it as our way to unwind, to unclutter our thoughts. When we\u2019re in that box of nothingness, we\u2019re clear, relaxed and at peace.<\/p><p>The best way to deal with our vegetative state of mind? Do nothing at all.<\/p><hr \/><p><i>Featured Image: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/jdhancock\/5021666285\/\">Image<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/creativecommons.org\/licenses\/by-nc-nd\/2.0\/\">cc licensed ( BY NC ND )<\/a> flickr photo by Leandro Mocca<\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are a lot of facts aboutmen that women know. 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