Do girls say what they mean, and mean what they say? Fu Jinming attempts to do what every man has tried and failed \u2013 read their minds.<\/i><\/p>
Y<\/b>ou\u2019ve probably been there. You notice her face turning dark. You ask if something\u2019s bothering her. Nothing, she says, a little more curtly than usual. So you shrug and go about your business. Next thing you know, she storms out of the house, but not without first shooting you a look that says you\u2019re in big trouble \u2013 and you\u2019re not even sure why.<\/p>
Welcome to the mystical arts of female linguistics. A world where \u201cYes\u201d means \u201cNo.\u201d \u201cNo\u201d means \u201cNo.\u201d And \u201cMaybe,\u201d is definitely a big, fat \u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>
It\u2019s driving men nuts.<\/p>
We prefer to communicate in a clear, concise manner. You have a problem, we try to solve it. You ask a question, we answer \u2013 either truthfully, or we lie. No subtle hints. No mixed messages. No shades of grey.<\/p>
The female language, on the other hand, operates on a whole different stratosphere. They say something, but hint at a totally different meaning. They leave abstract clues to their real intent. And they omit just enough details for it to not be a lie, but not enough for it to be the complete truth.<\/p>
Why do women do that? Why do they ask for honesty, when the truth seems to rub them the wrong way?<\/p>
Well boys, my (very unscientific) hypothesis is this: she\u2019s not trying to hide her feelings from you. She\u2019s trying to hide them from herself.<\/p>
You see, women are wired differently, and with better character traits, for the most part. They are generally more caring, nurturing, and sensitive. Particularly to what they say, and how it makes the other person feel. Plus they think. A lot.<\/p>
In fact, she thinks and cares so much that she would attempt to censor her own emotions so as not to affect the other person\u2019s.<\/p>
Imagine telling your partner that you\u2019d have to work late tonight and can\u2019t make the movie. She says, \u201cThat\u2019s fine. Go work.\u201d<\/p>
Let\u2019s now warp-speed deep into her psyche. She\u2019s obviously upset that you\u2019ve cancelled out on her. But her mind is probably telling her that you\u2019ve done nothing wrong. Of course you\u2019re busy. She wouldn\u2019t expect you to be anything less than a go-getter right?<\/p>
And so her caring, nurturing, self-censoring mind tries to justify the right reasons so her emotions may follow suit. Think of it as a white lie, not to you, but to herself.<\/p>
Unfortunately, the tone in her voice rarely lies. Which explains the slight hostility you detect when she says \u201cIt\u2019s okay\u201d. It\u2019s passive-aggression of the well-intentioned\u2014and bizarre\u2014kind.<\/p>
Whatever the reasons, it\u2019s a hazardous zone for menfolk to wander into. To help you make sense of and navigate your way around her linguistic abyss, here are seven things women like to say, and what they really mean.<\/p>