I'd just found out my bf had no idea he was married for 3 years and now he's filing for annulment. This is weird in many ways for me because his ex-fiancee (a Japan foreign student) had left Singapore ever since they broken up in 2012. He had never went through any solemnisation, no witness or ceremony on his side as he let his ex-fiancee to process all the paper work.
One time, she let him sign one paper all in Japanese before when they were about to get married, but trusting her, he signed the paper although he didn't understand a single word. After the wedding was called off, the girl went back to her country and they never kept in contact anymore. Before she left, she did not mention anything about the signed documents to him so he didn't think it'd affect him at all. Back then he was 24.
In any case, how can someone not know he's married or not for years and sign a document which he can't read or comprehend at all???
Couple of weeks back, when we're discussing on our wedding preparations, he suddenly remembered about this document he signed and hired a lawyer to check on his marriage status, only to realise he is married to her ex-fiancee over the last 3 years.
Now I don't know if I should marry him anymore or how to break the news to my parents. Or is it okay not to let my parents know about it at all. I grew up in a very traditional family and my parents, if they knew about it, most probably they'd not allow me to see him anymore. But I'd be very guilty if I hide it from them and go ahead with the wedding.
If we were to get married, during solemnisation he has to declare his first marriage and produce the final judgement document when the solemniser asked if any of us are married, divorce etc..By then, my parents would find it a humiliation and that might be worse, especially when all their business partners, relatives and friends are around.
On top of that, on ROM records, his first marriage would always be there, the mark will follow him the rest of his life. I didn't want our marriage papers or ROM records to have him stated he was once married to another woman. I still hadn't been able to get past the fact that I'm going to be his 2nd wife, 2nd marriage. I can't imagine my marriage is going to be like this as to me, marriage is a once in a life time thing. I'm very upset and frustrated with him now. What should I do?
One time, she let him sign one paper all in Japanese before when they were about to get married, but trusting her, he signed the paper although he didn't understand a single word. After the wedding was called off, the girl went back to her country and they never kept in contact anymore. Before she left, she did not mention anything about the signed documents to him so he didn't think it'd affect him at all. Back then he was 24.
In any case, how can someone not know he's married or not for years and sign a document which he can't read or comprehend at all???
Couple of weeks back, when we're discussing on our wedding preparations, he suddenly remembered about this document he signed and hired a lawyer to check on his marriage status, only to realise he is married to her ex-fiancee over the last 3 years.
Now I don't know if I should marry him anymore or how to break the news to my parents. Or is it okay not to let my parents know about it at all. I grew up in a very traditional family and my parents, if they knew about it, most probably they'd not allow me to see him anymore. But I'd be very guilty if I hide it from them and go ahead with the wedding.
If we were to get married, during solemnisation he has to declare his first marriage and produce the final judgement document when the solemniser asked if any of us are married, divorce etc..By then, my parents would find it a humiliation and that might be worse, especially when all their business partners, relatives and friends are around.
On top of that, on ROM records, his first marriage would always be there, the mark will follow him the rest of his life. I didn't want our marriage papers or ROM records to have him stated he was once married to another woman. I still hadn't been able to get past the fact that I'm going to be his 2nd wife, 2nd marriage. I can't imagine my marriage is going to be like this as to me, marriage is a once in a life time thing. I'm very upset and frustrated with him now. What should I do?